Is she Novus Ordo? It sounds like touchy-feely novus ordo psychobabble to me.
Indeed. It seems a lot of young people think this is the way the Church has always been, and that when I say something about "the Jєωs," it is uncomfortable and utterly sinful. I wonder what they'd think of St. Paul's comments about the Jєωs!
These kids in college were a part of the Church because of the cool folk masses and homilies that bordered on blasphemy every week. That was part of the reason I was so turned off by the campus Catholics - I wanted to be told that I was
not doing the right thing and that I needed to amend my life, or I would burn. These kids used confession as a free psychiatrist!
At the very least, I asked this girl, "If Benedict XVI made the TLM mandatory for all churches from now on, would you remain a Catholic?" and she said yes.
Still, the novus ordo Church still teaches against contraception, so I am not alone in that argument. If she wants to practice contraception, she must not want to remain Catholic - a dealbreaker to be sure.
At any rate, I'd be careful not to get desperate. A young man who is intelligent and mortified (able to control himself) will find the woman God picked out for him eventually, if marriage is God's will for him.
I speak from experience -- I was desperate once (as in, most of the time I was single), and I came very close to making several dreadful mistakes. Luckily God's providence intervened on several occasions so I wouldn't ruin my life.
I say God's providence, because that's the only explanation. The fact that I met someone eventually who was SO RIGHT for me, practically hand-crafted by God just for me -- it explains why I got dumped so many times! I was never able to reject anyone, sad to say.
Matthew
Ah yes, not able to reject anyone. A difficult problem, that. In time and through prayer, I will see God's plan more clearly.