Author Topic: Dating and girls (Read 3511 times)

Lybus · « **Reply #5 on:** May 20, 2009, 08:56:12 PM »

In all technicality, I am old enough to marry. I'm just not financially able yet. I will be soon, though.

DeMaistre · « **Reply #6 on:** May 20, 2009, 11:03:26 PM »

I would advise you to exercise caution. Recall, that the saints have told us to lower our eyes, and in their own times, women all dressed like nuns for the most part. I believe they would be horrified if they lived in our times. In other words, a traditional Catholic lady is no less a source of temptation than an immodestly clad youth.

spouse of Jesus · « **Reply #7 on:** May 20, 2009, 11:37:13 PM »

In my country people do this:

a marriage has two parts: 1-the man and the woman are made husband and wife. they are canonically married.

2-they begin to live as spouses.

Many people do the first step and before going to the second one they wait 1 or 2 years, in which any of two parties lives with their parents. So that the groom may have time to buy a house and bride to prepare her dowry. In the space between thse 2 steps, they meet each other almost daily and exchange gifts, but usually don't consumate their marriage.

DeMaistre · « **Reply #8 on:** May 20, 2009, 11:41:47 PM »

Quote from: spouse of Jesus

In my country people do this:

a marriage has two parts: 1-the man and the woman are made husband and wife. they are canonically married.

2-they begin to live as spouses.

Many people do the first step and before going to the second one they wait 1 or 2 years, in which any of two parties lives with their parents. So that the groom may have time to buy a house and bride to prepare her dowry. In the space between thse 2 steps, they meet each other almost daily and exchange gifts, but usually don't consumate their marriage.

The concept of "falling in love" is actually a recent novelty. Before, children were betrothed at birth often times.

Lybus · « **Reply #9 on:** May 21, 2009, 07:29:04 PM »

My priest was talking about that. Sounds so bizarre, I only know from the movies of how it is usually shunned, like in Fiddler on the Roof. I suppose if the families have known each other for generations, it's alright. But in today's world, since we are so disconnected from other families and always moving about, uprooting ourselves, we have to, "Fall in love" per se. It's up to us to find the right spouse, not our parents anymore.