Author Topic: Courtship (Read 5818 times)

TraceG · « **on:** April 11, 2012, 08:04:28 PM »

Everything I have read or listened to on courtship says that the individuals involved should court multiple people. That can be such a tough effort. I live approx 4 hours away from a large catholic population and even then most in that area (cincy) know each other. It seems to me that it is rude so to speak to court multiple girls at the same time for the purpose of later marriage. I actually know more catholics in the Cincy area than Louisville, go figure.

Catholic Samurai · « **Reply #1 on:** April 11, 2012, 08:42:40 PM »

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It seems to me that it is rude so to speak to court multiple girls at the same time for the purpose of later marriage.

There's nothing wrong with dating multiple gals, unless you are already in a relationship with one.

ServusSpiritusSancti · « **Reply #2 on:** April 11, 2012, 08:44:59 PM »

I think I'll stick to courting one at a time, if I can even find one to court.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #3 on:** April 11, 2012, 08:51:07 PM »

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Everything I have read or listened to on courtship says that the individuals involved should court multiple people. That can be such a tough effort. I live approx 4 hours away from a large catholic population and even then most in that area (cincy) know each other. It seems to me that it is rude so to speak to court multiple girls at the same time for the purpose of later marriage. I actually know more catholics in the Cincy area than Louisville, go figure.

Yes, they all know each other. And they're all in competition with each other. That can be good for you, or bad, depending on the circuмstances. Don't alert the queen bees to anything you're doing. Don't ever confide anything important to these girls under the mistaken impression that they won't be reporting everything you say to their circle.

Catholic Samurai · « **Reply #4 on:** April 11, 2012, 08:52:54 PM »

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I think I'll stick to courting one at a time, if I can even find one to court.

Well if it's such a big deal to yall, I think yall should move.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #5 on:** April 11, 2012, 08:53:26 PM »

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I think I'll stick to courting one at a time, if I can even find one to court.

Well if it's such a big deal to yall, I think yall should move.

Maybe it would be better if your kind went back across the border.

ServusSpiritusSancti · « **Reply #6 on:** April 11, 2012, 08:53:57 PM »

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I think I'll stick to courting one at a time, if I can even find one to court.

Well if it's such a big deal to yall, I think yall should move.

I can't move right now.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #7 on:** April 11, 2012, 08:59:57 PM »

You also have to ask yourself if you want to subject your family and reputation at the mercy of a clique of gossips whom the priests are mainly interested in pleasing. Pleasing the worst offenders, generally.

Catholic Samurai · « **Reply #8 on:** April 11, 2012, 09:01:14 PM »

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I think I'll stick to courting one at a time, if I can even find one to court.

Well if it's such a big deal to yall, I think yall should move.

Maybe it would be better if your kind went back across the border.

I actually like that idea. We'd have to build a fence for the Cajuns next door though. Care to help?

And I was being serious. You think Miss Trad America is just going to come knock on the door just because they want her to? You can't properly meet and connect with people at the distances they are talking about.

ServusSpiritusSancti · « **Reply #9 on:** April 11, 2012, 09:04:05 PM »

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And I was being serious. You think Miss Trad America is just going to come knock on the door just because they want her to?

I never said that would happen.

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You can't properly meet and connect with people at the distances they are talking about.

Again, I can't move right now. I'd like to, but cannot.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #10 on:** April 11, 2012, 09:07:42 PM »

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And I was being serious.

Telling men to move for the sake of "trad" (chapel clique girls) women. Seriously bad advice.

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You think Miss Trad America

Yeah they all think they're special.

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is just going to come knock on the door just because they want her to?

It depends on what they want. If they really want Catholic marriage, and not to play games, and they like a man, they will be attentive.

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You can't properly meet and connect with people at the distances they are talking about.

I do think it can take time to pique their interest. I'm not sure it's really a good thing to be doing necessarily. Because you might end up with one.

@TraceG

Best to not tell anyone anything about yourself. And to get them alone, and not try to meet more than one at a time, because once you get one mad at you they'll do what they can to sabotage you.

Catholic Samurai · « **Reply #11 on:** April 11, 2012, 09:15:44 PM »

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And I was being serious. You think Miss Trad America is just going to come knock on the door just because they want her to?

I never said that would happen.

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You can't properly meet and connect with people at the distances they are talking about.

Again, I can't move right now. I'd like to, but cannot.

I wasn't talking to you, silly.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #12 on:** April 11, 2012, 09:16:44 PM »

Many of the Trad chapel girls in Cincinnati go to drinking parties hosted by parents, where they get smashed drunk with each other. This with the approval of their parents. They are TRINOs. Trads In Name Only.

Alex · « **Reply #13 on:** April 11, 2012, 09:18:14 PM »

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Everything I have read or listened to on courtship says that the individuals involved should court multiple people. That can be such a tough effort. I live approx 4 hours away from a large catholic population and even then most in that area (cincy) know each other. It seems to me that it is rude so to speak to court multiple girls at the same time for the purpose of later marriage. I actually know more catholics in the Cincy area than Louisville, go figure.

I don't think you're supposed to court them at the same time. I would break up with a man if he was seeing other women while he was also seeing me!

Catholic Samurai · « **Reply #14 on:** April 11, 2012, 09:21:31 PM »

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Many of the Trad chapel girls in Cincinnati go to drinking parties hosted by parents, where they get smashed drunk with each other. This with the approval of their parents. They are TRINOs. Trads In Name Only.

Considering your bad habit of making generalizations, why don't we let TraceG judge for himself weather or not that is true ( should he decide to go up there)?