I came from a family of 9 kids. My dad worked, and worked and slept when he could. I remember my dad or mom saying, that dad did not show emotion/love wise. Hm? He found 9 children. He was not one to say, "I love You", guess or was not of the frisky kind. My mom knew that, but there is more ways to express it.
Come to find out, I am like that and I am a daughter. I told my husband, when we were dating, I would not just blurt out, "I love you". I would when I knew for sure and not till then. When he heard it and how I came to find out, he was very pleased to say the least. And come to find out, he wants to hear "Thank You" more often.
Well, I am, it doesn't come out so much, but I don't want to give the impression that I just expect certain ways of him, like going to work. I found out after 40 years, he would rather hear "Thank You", than I Love you. Hm? I tried to say both. Because I don't say it, he might think I am thinking of myself. Hm? Do I smell the devil some where trying to creep in?
Was it the way I was brought up? Or is it a personality like my dad? Is it a learned thing? I do know this much, it pays to know the person you marry. It sure helps a lot because understanding can grow and you can laugh about things.
My husband may say, "Hey, you passed me by twice and no kiss" OK, so I kiss him so much that he has had enough and I am good to go passed him, all paid up!