Author Topic: Trad. Catholic Singles (Read 18643 times)

ora pro me · « **Reply #55 on:** April 10, 2013, 11:55:42 PM »

Quote from: Frances

Someone gives a thumbs down to my factual answer? What is your.objection? You don't agree that I live in a large city in the northeast? Too bad! This is where God placed me and where I'll remain until He indicates otherwise.

Frances,
I gave you a thumbs up to counteract the thumbs down so now you're ahead. As another poster said, the thumbs down was probably done by accident and maybe the down-thumber didn't even realize the mistake. I hope you won't let a thumb down discourage you from posting.

Also, as Iuvenalis pointed out, a down thumb is just 1/3 of a reputation point and a thumb up is a whole point.

Carry on singles. Oh wait, I think it's now mostly married men who are posting here and since I also am married (and old, too), I'll just hop on over to another thread.

Exilenomore · « **Reply #56 on:** April 11, 2013, 06:22:47 AM »

Quote from: Iuvenalis

I think it is Tele(") who has pointed out that you had better seek non-American women if you're "playing the odds" on finding a wife who will accept traditional roles-- he is right (as usual).

Living in Europe, I should tell you that people are largely americanised here, and feminism has taken root very firmly among men and women alike. It is not suprising, since they all bring America right into their living rooms via television, internet etc. They basically follow all the fads that are constantly being born in America, even in clothing and language. Children learn to speak American English before they are taught English in school nowadays, though in francophonic areas people appear to be less anglicised linguistically.

Things have changed dramatically after WWII here, and our elderly people who remembered the time preceding it attest to this. Feminism was among the main elements of these changes and it has caused, and still does, a severe rot in family life.

It is true that it is not as bad as in America here yet, though. I have never actually been there, but things like those television spots claiming state-ownership over children, of which there was talk on this forum very recently, have not found entrance here yet (as far as I know, since I do not watch television). But the rot is very deep and moral decadence reigns unbridled.

Of course, as Telesphorus points out, distinction should be made between those who go along with the indifferentist procession and those who consciously reject the same, though liberalism has unfortunately not neglected to inflict damage on those who worship outside of the conciliar structures, either.

Agobard · « **Reply #57 on:** April 11, 2013, 01:09:34 PM »

Quote from: lauraelizabeth

Definitely the same thing in the Northeast. I was playing outside today with my nieces and nephews and I was just so happy lying on the warm ground (the snow is almost completely gone!) and looking at the sky, but I started thinking "Oh wow, if God wants me to get married.....then I have NO IDEA how He is going to make it happen.!" I mean, really, I spend basically every day at home except for 5 hrs of school per week (and my dad waits for me on campus while I am in class......nottt that I would be interested in socializing there anyway). The only men who remotely have my views are years older than me........usually a solid thirty years older......and are catholic in the loosest sense of the word. I agree that gems of girls can be found in the N.O., but I would never look for a husband in the N.O. I definitely don't want to lead my husband in the faith(!) Inspire? Yes. Lead? Definitely Not.
To be perfectly honest, I wish arranged marriages were more common practice! If that were the case, then I would not be expected to 'go out' and 'experience being in my twenties' (also known as: debauch and defile myself more than I already was in my teenage years. No thank you.) :shocked:

Perfect reply. The only problem is you need independently Catholic minded men and women. The father must not be a follower, even regarding certain Catholic groups. Questioning everything for the sake of his family. This has been the problem for the past 100 years. Go along with the 1st world war, go along with nationalism, secularism, go along with your bishop even though he contradicts 2000 years of Catholic teaching, go along with....

Families need men pre-WWI. Forget all the fads and teachings against the faith since 1910s. The newer science actually is more science than the dogmas of faith vs science. The push in the 1800s was to destroy the faith and thus solid families, through science. We are better off now with the exposure of people with agendas to enslave whole populations. There was an attempt to monopolize science against the faith.

Read the lives of moral saintly independent Catholic men prior to 1900 to know how men should become good fathers.

Arranged marriages are a good because they place families and societies above the competition of the marketplace. As though one's daughter was some commodity, that the highest bidder/con-artist/romancer/charmer/brute/etc should "win". Arranged marriages with responsible independent parents' concern is the continuation of traditions and the line, the linage, the traditions, the faith, morals, customs, values, virtues of their own culture/family are passed on, to prevent the homogenization of their children, simply one of the crowd that will mirror and the seek to be like the masses.

Agobard · « **Reply #58 on:** April 11, 2013, 01:35:44 PM »

Marriage to distant cousins was common in Catholic village life, so much so, there were canon laws preventing marriages up to the 8th degree, IIRC. One needed an exemption from the priest or bishop to marry closer relatives. Abraham married his half-sister, Jacob married his cousins. That was a tribe mentality, Catholics are a universal people, but within villages in Europe, families would marry distant relatives.

The difference between the past and present is the early Catholics fought against ideals, so when they interacted with polytheists, there was a meeting with near equals. Greek philosophy, Magi Astrology, even many ideas in "paganism" and I could list many more concepts that would offend Catholics as being labeled as "near equals". The reason I say near equals is because there was a logic and benefit of these morals to their people. Today, there is no battle of great minds. Simply those who wish to comply to the wishes of those behind the curtain and those who wish to resist to defend their very existence as a distinct and free people. Once a society is lost to homogenization of global culture, restoring is difficult. Forward to the basics. Morals. Virtue. Family. Society. Keeping men truly free is at the heart of this. Free to do good.

Frances · « **Reply #59 on:** April 15, 2013, 11:58:56 AM »

:alcohol:Sometimes one-size-does not fit-all. I came to Tradition from 'evangelical' protestantism after 'stumbling upon' the writings of St Eusebius, St Augustine, and the 'summa.' The Scripture which I'd read and studied for over two decades without understanding regarding the Church and the Sacraments, fell into place. Then, I 'stumbled upon' Against the Heresies by ABL. --I am female.