I thought I'd start a topic out of the blue, after reading some interesting articles recently.
The world thinks that everyone -- from the 10 year old in elementary school, to the high school senior, to the 63 year old widow -- has little or nothing to live for if they don't have "someone to love" (a significant other).
But the Catholic wisdom teaches that a young person shouldn't concern himself with courtship (which is like dating, only it aims for marriage, not fun or pleasure) until he is more or less ready to be married.
So if a young man determines that he needs a 4-year college degree, he should probably focus on that until he nears graduation. It only makes sense.
But then again, not everyone needs to be "well to do" or even have a college degree. Some are called to manual trades (which can be learned through apprenticeship, etc.) and others are called to the priesthood/religious life, military, etc.
So even a poor man could get married, as long as he could support a wife and many children *in some way*, even if not according to the world's standards.
But a teenager should NOT mess with courtship, unless he has some way to support a family in mind. If he is not fit for manual labor (he has his heart set on being a computer programmer, for instance) he needs to go to college (or do much self-study, certification, etc.) so he can be established as a programmer FIRST before he can settle down and get married. Or, if he is willing to give up his programming career and become a factory worker, he's welcome to get married to his high school sweetheart, etc. -- but he might regret it later. But that is where Free Will comes in. We all make choices.
I think a lot of people are confused on this, which is why I wanted to start this topic.
Matthew