Author Topic: Can Men and Women be friends? (Read 8719 times)

brainglitch · « **Reply #25 on:** June 30, 2013, 07:25:30 PM »

Quote from: Zeitun

This question is for the married folks:

How would you feel if you found out your spouse was sharing personal information about you with his/her childhood best friend who was the opposite sex?

Let's say that information was regarding some of your....deficiencies?

Men: women tend to complain to friends. Now she's complaining about you to another man? And you have to face him at social events. You wonder what she told him about your little "problem".

Ladies...your husband's close female friend hasn't had kids yet. She's still slim and active. You've had 4 kids and have a thick waist. How do you feel about him going over to her house on the weekend to fix her car....alone?

How about workplace friends who go out to Happy Hour and have drinks together. And your spouse is 3 hours late getting home. No big deal, right? Then you found out the new guy/girl is really really "smart", "funny", "amazing" you fill in the blank.

Just wondering.

If a woman at work ever started to get too friendly with me I would just try this:

Zeitun · « **Reply #26 on:** June 30, 2013, 07:26:37 PM »

Quote from: Tiffany

Men have no obligation to continue a courtship or engagement with a time waster. If she is that fickle to keep delaying things, it will be hard but he needs to move on and find a woman who is ready to marry. Hope can be a hard thing to walk away from though.

Agreed. Men should know within 2-3 months of courtship if a woman is wife/mother of his children material. Ideally an engagement should come by 6 months of courtship. Women who want to marry are very eager (as all the sterotypes can attest to). We dream of marriage from the time we are little girls. It's in our DNA.

gobosox91 · « **Reply #27 on:** June 30, 2013, 07:26:54 PM »

Of course. Why not?

Zeitun · « **Reply #28 on:** June 30, 2013, 07:28:34 PM »

Quote from: brainglitch

Quote from: Zeitun
This question is for the married folks:

How would you feel if you found out your spouse was sharing personal information about you with his/her childhood best friend who was the opposite sex?

Let's say that information was regarding some of your....deficiencies?

Men: women tend to complain to friends. Now she's complaining about you to another man? And you have to face him at social events. You wonder what she told him about your little "problem".

Ladies...your husband's close female friend hasn't had kids yet. She's still slim and active. You've had 4 kids and have a thick waist. How do you feel about him going over to her house on the weekend to fix her car....alone?

How about workplace friends who go out to Happy Hour and have drinks together. And your spouse is 3 hours late getting home. No big deal, right? Then you found out the new guy/girl is really really "smart", "funny", "amazing" you fill in the blank.

Just wondering.

If a woman at work ever started to get too friendly with me I would just try this:

Napoli · « **Reply #29 on:** July 01, 2013, 10:52:19 AM »

I started this thread because of of a question from a friend. Your answers, especially Mathew, were exactly in line with my thoughts.

It is next to impossible to have a friend who's an attractive lady around your age. You should never be alone with them.

Fortunately, the only one I broke that rule for was my wife. Something felt right and I knew I would never do anything to hurt her. We were engaged that same day and married shortly thereafter.

She is my best friend and only female friend.

Pax