Author Topic: Can Men and Women be friends? (Read 8727 times)

Tiffany · « **Reply #20 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:59:54 PM »

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Quote from: jen51
I'm sure this is true for a lot of nice girls. Though from my observation I think good trad men are even more likely to show stronger commitment than the woman during courtship.

Yes and it puts them in a precarious position.

Which is why long engagements are very wrong. It's a concession to feminine fickleness, ultimately, and it's against Church teachings, although you'd never know by the way liberal priests treat the issue.

Men have no obligation to continue a courtship or engagement with a time waster. If she is that fickle to keep delaying things, it will be hard but he needs to move on and find a woman who is ready to marry. Hope can be a hard thing to walk away from though.

Tiffany · « **Reply #21 on:** June 30, 2013, 07:07:31 PM »

Quote from: jen51

Quote from: Telesphorus

....long engagements are very wrong.

I agree. Long engagements aren't the way to go.

That is bad the priests don't teach that, our children should know they are wrong long before they know why.

PereJoseph · « **Reply #22 on:** June 30, 2013, 07:15:51 PM »

Quote from: jen51

Darn you quoted me before I edited my spelling error! Platonic not plutonic.

Surely you meant that non-Platonic relationships between unmarried people are plutonic, whereas non-plutonic relationships between un-married people would apparently be Platonic. :wink:

Zeitun · « **Reply #23 on:** June 30, 2013, 07:22:01 PM »

This question is for the married folks:

How would you feel if you found out your spouse was sharing personal information about you with his/her childhood best friend who was the opposite sex?

Let's say that information was regarding some of your....deficiencies?

Men: women tend to complain to friends. Now she's complaining about you to another man? And you have to face him at social events. You wonder what she told him about your little "problem".

Ladies...your husband's close female friend hasn't had kids yet. She's still slim and active. You've had 4 kids and have a thick waist. How do you feel about him going over to her house on the weekend to fix her car....alone?

How about workplace friends who go out to Happy Hour and have drinks together. And your spouse is 3 hours late getting home. No big deal, right? Then you found out the new guy/girl is really really "smart", "funny", "amazing" you fill in the blank.

Just wondering.

PereJoseph · « **Reply #24 on:** June 30, 2013, 07:24:42 PM »

Quote from: jen51

Quote from: Telesphorus

....long engagements are very wrong.

I agree. Long engagements aren't the way to go.

No, they are certainly not. Parents generally have the power to prevent long engagements by facilitating a place to stay. Unfortunately, mid-XXth-century North Americans find multigenerational households to be something intolerable and shameful. Younger generations apparently have an aversion to living in the same home wherein they were raised, as well. I can't entirely pinpoint the source of these phenomena, but it does seem that the usual suspects of the love of money and the hatred of natural hierarchy are involved.