Author Topic: Can Men and Women be friends? (Read 8721 times)

jen51 · « **Reply #15 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:43:23 PM »

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A woman who wants to be married is going to want that.

With dating/courting I think what you sometimes find with nice girls is they are committed o a man they are dating like they are married and he does not commit. That definitely delays marriage for them.

I'm sure this is true for a lot of nice girls. Though from my observation I think good trad men are even more likely to show stronger commitment than the woman during courtship.

Solidus · « **Reply #16 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:46:03 PM »

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Courting is not marriage. If someone you are courting suggests that, you need to RUN in the other direction -- as far and fast as you can.

If someone is willing to cut ties to friend because they marry they are not a real friend.

I don't think men and women should be alone in a closed setting (car, home) even if both are single.

We should probably define our terms. When I say "close friends" I mean that good friend from childhood that you've known forever. "She's a sister to me!" kind of thing. A regular friend would be someone that you hang out with when you're with a group of friends. A close friend would be "Hey, lets go grab some lunch and catch up". A regular friend would be "Hey, lets grab some buds and go snowboarding!". I don't know if that makes any sense. In most of my friendships the "close friend" is someone you can hang out alone with and talk about personal matters. A "regular friend" is part of the whole crew of friends.

I guess "cutting ties" was kinda harsh. I meant that you should spend less time with that person, and never alone but in the company of your spouse.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #17 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:46:56 PM »

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I'm sure this is true for a lot of nice girls. Though from my observation I think good trad men are even more likely to show stronger commitment than the woman during courtship.

Yes and it puts them in a precarious position.

Which is why long engagements are very wrong. It's a concession to feminine fickleness, ultimately, and it's against Church teachings, although you'd never know by the way liberal priests treat the issue.

jen51 · « **Reply #18 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:51:34 PM »

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....long engagements are very wrong.

I agree. Long engagements aren't the way to go.

Tiffany · « **Reply #19 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:52:42 PM »

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Quote from: Tiffany
A woman who wants to be married is going to want that.

With dating/courting I think what you sometimes find with nice girls is they are committed o a man they are dating like they are married and he does not commit. That definitely delays marriage for them.

I'm sure this is true for a lot of nice girls. Though from my observation I think good trad men are even more likely to show stronger commitment than the woman during courtship.

Matthew was saying women having platonic male friends causes them delay marriage. I was responding that I've seen more of that ^ delay marriage for women who want to marry than her having male friends.