Author Topic: Can Men and Women be friends? (Read 8716 times)

jen51 · « **Reply #10 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:29:08 PM »

Are friendships with the opposite sex possible? Sure. Though in my experience they are generally not platonic. One or the other generally has stronger feelings, or they both do. God made us man and woman, I think it's easy enough to know what follows.

Matthew · « **Reply #11 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:30:49 PM »

Quote from: jen51

Are friendships with the opposite sex possible? Sure. Though in my experience they are generally not plutonic. One or the other generally has stronger feelings, or they both do. God made us man and woman, I think it's easy enough to know what follows.

I tend to agree.

I think you hit the nail on the head -- one side or the other is going to be the more needy one, who is more interested in the friendship becoming "more". One side might be fine with the "friends" arrangement, but it's not likely that both are.

And, in the end, it's still playing with fire.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #12 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:31:48 PM »

Quote

I'm surprised Tele isn't more against this -- it certainly delays marriage for women as much as any college education.

Women who keep "beta orbiter" in the so-called "friend-zone" aren't generally interested in marriage.

You're really misunderstanding me completely. I've never said I'm in favor of platonic friendship with women. I simply refuse to deny that it is possible. I think it requires a real lack of imagination to believe that.

I also think your ideas about women are surprising.

I certainly don't see friendship with women as a path to courtship necessarily, although I am honest with a women when I am considering that possibility.

Tiffany · « **Reply #13 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:36:01 PM »

A woman who wants to be married is going to want that.

With dating/courting I think what you sometimes find with nice girls is they are committed o a man they are dating like they are married and he does not commit. That definitely delays marriage for them.

jen51 · « **Reply #14 on:** June 30, 2013, 06:38:57 PM »

Quote from: Matthew

Quote from: jen51
Are friendships with the opposite sex possible? Sure. Though in my experience they are generally not plutonic. One or the other generally has stronger feelings, or they both do. God made us man and woman, I think it's easy enough to know what follows.

I tend to agree.

I think you hit the nail on the head -- one side or the other is going to be the more needy one, who is more interested in the friendship becoming "more". One side might be fine with the "friends" arrangement, but it's not likely that both are.

And, in the end, it's still playing with fire.

Darn you quoted me before I edited my spelling error! Platonic not plutonic.