Author Topic: Both spouses and work (Read 1634 times)

Kephapaulos · « **on:** April 30, 2017, 02:53:59 AM »

In view of what was brought up on another thread and what has come to mind to me, what are the best arguments for the husband working and the wife staying at home?

There is the argument against the natural marriage relationship that it is supposedly a necessity for both spouses to work these days and concern for if the husband dies. I find it a pretty annoying modern assumption.

Of course, are not there are lot of good ways to manage money better and opportunities for women to go to school and work if necessary at all?

Are there are any good traditional Catholic articles on this subject that demolishes the liberal arguments, particularly in principle?

Thank you.

Nadir · « **Reply #1 on:** April 30, 2017, 04:32:59 AM »

Good subject for a thread, Kephapaulos!

If a couple believe in the God's purpose in creating marriage, they will understand that there are two separate roles to be played in a marriage: that of provider and that of nurturer. The former belongs to the man and the latter to the woman. Of course, today we are far from this, God's, plan.

Modern life is especially structured to destroy this natural arrangement. There are many issues to discuss here.

Of course you hit the nail on the head in saying "there are lot of good ways to manage money better". That's just one issue. Think of all the things we need today of which our ancestors had no knowledge, no desire for, no need, and yet they stayed together, had fruitful lives and were generally more content than couples today.

I just came across this blog with quite a good article and others to follow on.
http://www.traditionalcatholicpriest.com/2015/08/29/how-to-have-a-true-traditional-catholic-marriage/

Marlelar · « **Reply #2 on:** April 30, 2017, 06:45:06 PM »

My cousin died at 29 leaving a 25 yo widow with a 3yo and a 6 mo baby. She had no education, no skills, no extended family to rely on. Although his family helped where they could she ended up on welfare.

It's not like it was 100 years ago when a woman could go back to the farm/ranch and live with her/his parents and raise the children. Without marketable skills of some sort women are devoured by the modern welfare system.

MaterDominici · « **Reply #3 on:** April 30, 2017, 09:14:13 PM »

Quote from: Marlelar on April 30, 2017, 06:45:06 PM

My cousin died at 29 leaving a 25 yo widow with a 3yo and a 6 mo baby. She had no education, no skills, no extended family to rely on. Although his family helped where they could she ended up on welfare.

It's not like it was 100 years ago when a woman could go back to the farm/ranch and live with her/his parents and raise the children. Without marketable skills of some sort women are devoured by the modern welfare system.

To me, this reads like a cliff-hanger. What happened next? Did the welfare system fail them, put them on the street, or leave them starving? If social welfare isn't for a widow with no parents, uncles, cousins, or friends who can help her, then who is it for?

I expected to hear something more like, "she was forced to put her children in public school".

Marlelar · « **Reply #4 on:** April 30, 2017, 09:38:52 PM »

Oops, sorry. She stayed a welfare queen and sank to the level that Uncle Sam provided. Other men moved in/out of her life but 3rd hand I heard she didn't want to get married because she would lose her "benefits". At least she didn't keep reproducing so as to increase her $$.

Welfare seems to destroy people's initiative. I know there are exceptions but rather than a leg up it seems to be an arm that holds people down.

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