Is dating/courtship appropriate for 16 year olds in high school? I have a 16 year old relative who is interested in traditional catholicism. He goes to public school and his parents are lapsed catholics, so he is surrounded by sin and impurity all the time.
He wants to have a girl come over to the house tomorrow (supervised) and he asked me what I thought, since I have been instructing him in the faith (the little I do know).
I told him I did not think it was appropriate since he still has over 1.5 years in high school left, he's got no job, and no career plan. I also told him that this modern idea of dating in high school just for the sake of dating is totally against God and ruins virginity. I told him the only purpose for dating is for finding a spouse, and at 16 years old he is too young.
Yet he pointed out to me that both sets of his grandparents who were catholics met in high school around the same age. This is before vatican 2 and in the 1948-1955 time period. One set of grandparents met around 17 years old, dated, went steady, took a break with the Korean War, then got married at around 21. Another set of grandparents met at 19 years old and were married by 21 years old. Clearly dating and "going steady" were the cultural norm pre-vatican 2.
How do I respond to his counter argument, and does he have a point? Should I have been more leanient?