I am sometimes concerned about the condition of my relatives souls; until I begin to think, they might not want to do what it takes to get to heaven. Most of my relatives appear to have made their choice, and, outside of them finally accepting God's grace, most of my relatives will have been shown to have chosen hell. Am I being too cynical? I believe, even as I pray for my relatives, most of them are going to Hell.
After our lives and the lives of our relatives are over, will we know which of us are spending eternity in heaven and which of us are spending eternity in hell?
I believe, those of us who make it to heaven will not be concerned about our relatives who went to hell. God will have made it even clearer to all of us that everyone is in hell through their own fault.