I think that everybody, both single and married, appreciates a good looking member of the opposite sex when they see one. Some people place more importance on looks than others. But I think this topic is an important one to address. Yes it is controversial. But at the same time, God may have intended it to be this way since He created people that are better looking than others. And I am referring to looks being an important factor when it comes to choosing a spouse. I am going to argue that looks are very important, but personality is just as important and maybe even a bit more important. probably 60/40 in favor of personality. Is this wrong to think this way? I don't have a clue. Am I shallow? Some probably think so, but I don't see it that way. Reason being, is because I am no different than any other person out there, and everyone is attracted to good looking people. I also sense that I have taken a lot of beatings because I myself am a good looking man. I suspect that others have been jealous of me and/or viewed me as a threat. So I get ganged up upon quite a bit. It stinks being good looking, but at the same time, it makes you believe that you have a chance to be with someone who is also good looking. But for even attempting to be with that person, you might take some beatings. Like myself. You might not even get the chance to talk to that person before taking some beatings. Thats how it is. Then people tell me I should go for someone who is more average. But the fact that I know I am good looking, makes me feel like I am settling for less. And yes, I know that sounds awful. But its like putting a plate full of food in front of a dog and telling him not to eat. Its kinda like torture. It is torture. Everyone wants to be with a good looking person. But good looking people want to be with each other. This is generally speaking. Is love possible between a good looking person and a not so good looking person? Of course. But good looking people aim for other people who are good looking. If you can have a good looking person and love at the same time then thats what I want. I don't see a problem with that. Of course it is difficult to find a mate thinking like this. I am 31 years old now, and haven't found that special one yet. It could be a while longer at this rate.
Do looks matter? How much do they matter in choosing your future spouse? What do you think?