Author Topic: Are looks important in choosing a mate? (Read 16636 times)

Marlelar · « **Reply #15 on:** August 08, 2014, 02:25:00 PM »

Oh Matthew! I love that song :roll-laugh1: I remember listening to it on the radio as a kid.

Marsha

Matthew · « **Reply #16 on:** August 08, 2014, 02:35:45 PM »

Quote from: Marlelar

Oh Matthew! I love that song :roll-laugh1: I remember listening to it on the radio as a kid.

Marsha

Yeah, it's kind of silly, but it does contain a lot of wisdom.

Think of all the shallow relationships in the world today -- many of which don't last 3 years. It's all about lust and looks. And how many women DO begin to work their husband's downfall and cause him grief only a couple years into their marriage.

An attractive woman who is used to lots of attention from men will have to go "cold turkey" from that attention, and not all of them can easily do that.

And even assuming she wants to be faithful, she STILL will drive a bit harder bargain with her husband (perhaps before he BECOMES her husband), because she has so much bargaining power, as it were.

Just talk to any "beautiful" woman and they'll tell what a curse it is, how men always want them just for their body, etc. It's a classic complaint.

Beauty isn't everything. And when it comes to beauty in a spouse, there isn't a lot that is "objective". Lots of women the world gushes over I don't find attractive; sometimes not *at all*.

stbrighidswell · « **Reply #17 on:** August 08, 2014, 02:36:17 PM »

Quote from: Marlelar

Looks fade, character lasts.

Looks only matter so long as YOU like the look of your spouse, regardless of what others may think. Trophy wives/husbands have about as much depth as that bowling trophy that sits on the shelf.

Read a chapter in the book of Proverbs everyday for practical advice on what kind of man to be and what type of woman to look for.

Marsha

So there is no such thing as a good looking or attractive Traditional Catholic, if they are good looking they only amount to being a dumb trophy.

Attractiveness is not the problem its vanity. A good looking person is not automatically vain. In IF's case he has a little vanity because he wants the good looking girl to equal his own good looks so that bolsters his own ego. That's vanity.
Give the guy a break though , he might just suffer from immaturity as well.

tdrev123 · « **Reply #18 on:** August 08, 2014, 03:15:28 PM »

I have a suggestion that might actually help IF. If you are a 'good looking' man and I hope you are a good Catholic then if you meet an 'average' (I'm using terms that you would use) Lady who is a great and pious Catholic, and you court each other, you might find that she is a great girlfriend/courtee and she is very loving and devoted and even Grateful. She is Grateful to have such a good Catholic who also looks great! And in turn this makes her very happy and very devoted to you (if you marry). And she will always know that somehow she got a home run in a husband and she might be a better wife in many ways because of it.

This is just a theory of mine, if anyone disagrees with it that is okay.

MaterDominici · « **Reply #19 on:** August 08, 2014, 03:32:44 PM »

Quote from: tdrev123

I have a suggestion that might actually help IF. If you are a 'good looking' man and I hope you are a good Catholic then if you meet an 'average' (I'm using terms that you would use) Lady who is a great and pious Catholic, and you court each other, you might find that she is a great girlfriend/courtee and she is very loving and devoted and even Grateful. She is Grateful to have such a good Catholic who also looks great! And in turn this makes her very happy and very devoted to you (if you marry). And she will always know that somehow she got a home run in a husband and she might be a better wife in many ways because of it.

This is just a theory of mine, if anyone disagrees with it that is okay.

Not a bad thought as long as it stays a thought and doesn't ever come close to crossing his lips. Don't ever even remotely suggest that she somehow "owes" you something that was all developed in your own mind to begin with.

The better idea, though, is if you feel like you're settling, you should probably move on. Not because she isn't pretty enough, but because you don't appreciate her for what and who she is.

Perhaps it's because the two just aren't meant for each other or perhaps one isn't even giving the other a fair chance at getting to know them. Either way, don't marry someone who you consider to be "take it or leave it".