Author Topic: an asian custom that shocks westerners (Read 4358 times)

Classiccom · « **Reply #5 on:** August 14, 2009, 12:03:04 AM »

George seems to be enjoying that a bit too much !

Jacafamala · « **Reply #6 on:** August 14, 2009, 05:41:00 AM »

Eeeew, right on the lips like that. That's gross. I don't even kiss my children on the lips, only the cheek. I'm sorry, I'm too Irish for that. I'll have none of it.

spouse of Jesus · « **Reply #7 on:** August 14, 2009, 02:31:24 PM »

In my culture, people around you are categorized into two groups:
1- mahrams: People among whom there is a marriage impediment :all people of your own gender plus those of the opposite sex who are your: parent,siblings, aunts/ancles,grandparents,grand children,spouse,grand aunts/uncles, also your father in law and mother in law. Also every young child and the family who may have nursed you as a baby.

2-not mahrams: People who don't have a marriage impediment with you.

Now, kissing, embracing, shaking and holding hands and even looking at the body of people of group 1 (exluding the reproductive organs) is allowed on the condition that you don't do it in order to get carnal pleasure. (With spouses it is different)
about the 2nd group: one must have head covering and not to touch any part of their body.(unless it is an emergency)

Why are you annoyed at two men kissing but not at 2 stranger man and woman kissing???? Sin can exist in both cases and most of people are heteroes. therefore the latter has more chance of leading one to sin.

Alex · « **Reply #8 on:** August 14, 2009, 05:32:23 PM »

Quote from: spouse of Jesus

Why are you annoyed at two men kissing but not at 2 stranger man and woman kissing???? Sin can exist in both cases and most of people are heteroes. therefore the latter has more chance of leading one to sin.

A man kissing another man on the lips is not natural. A man kissing a woman on the lips is natural. I don't think a boyfriend/girlfriend giving each other a quick kiss on the lips will lead one to temptation. It's only the prolonged kissing that would lead to temptation.

This custom of holding hands and kissing came about as a result of the Arab Muslim culture that segregated men and women. Men spend a lot of time together and so emotions and feelings were re-directed to each other. That is how the custom came about.

Jacafamala · « **Reply #9 on:** August 14, 2009, 07:21:38 PM »

Quote from: spouse of Jesus

In my culture, people around you are categorized into two groups:
1- mahrams: People among whom there is a marriage impediment :all people of your own gender plus those of the opposite sex who are your: parent,siblings, aunts/ancles,grandparents,grand children,spouse,grand aunts/uncles, also your father in law and mother in law. Also every young child and the family who may have nursed you as a baby.

2-not mahrams: People who don't have a marriage impediment with you.

Now, kissing, embracing, shaking and holding hands and even looking at the body of people of group 1 (exluding the reproductive organs) is allowed on the condition that you don't do it in order to get carnal pleasure. (With spouses it is different)
about the 2nd group: one must have head covering and not to touch any part of their body.(unless it is an emergency)

Why are you annoyed at two men kissing but not at 2 stranger man and woman kissing???? Sin can exist in both cases and most of people are heteroes. therefore the latter has more chance of leading one to sin.

It's just another culture, don't let it worry you. To the normal Western mind, it's reeeally freaky.