... I don't want to pry, and I won't be offended if you'd rather not answer personal questions. Being that you and your wife seem to have already been through what I am currently going through, maybe you could be of help to us.
No, I do not mind helping in what way I can. I only did not respond sooner because there are so many new posts to this forum that I did not notice new posts to this thread until now.
Did you cut the ties with your wife's parents, or did she? Was it emotionally difficult for your wife? Was your wife close to her parents before you were married?
I was the one who did it. I saw it as my duty as the head of the household, plus all of the real confrontations were between me and them anyway since my wife had great difficulty in standing up to them.
My wife was not very close at all to her parents before our marriage, so it did not cause her the same problems it may have otherwise. Quite frankly, she found it a relief to not have to deal with them and all of the mean-spirited things they said to her.
Do you see any chance of reconciling?
No, I do not, because her parents are very stubborn and have constructed a whole narrative (which they tell to everyone who will listen) how they did nothing wrong, that I am just a controlling abusive husband, how horrible we have been to them etc. They show no signs of wanting a reconciliation short of a complete and total "surrender" on our part. This is due a lot to the particulars of their personalities and I honestly think that there may be some mental health issues at play.
With the way my parents are acting, at this point, the idea of cutting ties with them seems much easier than it used to be. My hangup, emotioanlly, is the "grandkids". My parents have so looked forward to grand children, and I know it would crush them to not be involved with them. Sometimes I think it's the only reason that they still talk to me. How do you explain to kids that they can't see their grandparents? It's this type of question that keeps me up at night.
Well, the "split-up" was when our oldest children were young enough that they do not even remember their grandparents on my wife's side and the younger ones never met them. So they have never even asked ... it helps that we live in another city and that my wife's parents never speak to my parents either. It is definitely a harsh thing, but we had to cut my wife's parents from their grandchildren for the good of those same grandchildren.
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