There is a certain percentage of people who will always side with the woman regardless. She would have to be of the caliber of a Susan Smith or Andrea Yates before they would admit that "there's something wrong here", and for some, possibly not even then.
Our society has certain protected classes of whom no harsh word may ever be spoken, nor may their motivations ever be second-guessed as being anything but the best. For many, women are one of those protected classes.
Actually that's not the point. I'm not talking about who the majority of women today would side with, if they watched some tiktok video where the woman opened up to the world about her motivations, etc.
I'm talking about what a normal, disinterested, DECENT person would think -- when no one is around -- for example one of the woman's children. Children are going to be much more objective about their mother's words and behavior. They will still have a sense of shame, even if she doesn't. They aren't going to automatically hate their own father just because he's a man, for example. They will look at the situation objectively, and see what a ***** she was. It will mess them up big-time.