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Offline girlytrad

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Re: Allow autists on the internet?
« Reply #45 on: December 19, 2025, 04:00:48 AM »
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  • Please define autists. 

    Also I think you are talking about a personal situation you are dealing with at home. Is that right?

    The people on this forum may think you are talking about some of the people on the forum.  Most of the melancholics are going "Is she talking about me?"

    Please clarify.


    They call it a spectrum for a reason.

    I don't want to talk about my personal situation. People so weird and prying here it bugs me out. But I do like your compassionate tone.

    What I mean is that some people on the more functioning end of the spectrum, can and do cause moral harm. Which is sinful. Obviously. So my question is, should we try to encourage those people to take a step back from public internet access for the sake of avoiding that moral harm.

    If some people are taking it so personally here on the forum, then there are a number of reasons. Yes it could be their melancholic temperament. But it could also be some people who are afraid to get diagnosed, because it would mean them having to think about their behavior online.

    I think we should be considerate of people online just as we are considerate of people just as we are in real life. In real life we avoid certain situations (like I mentioned above) which cause us to cause harm to others. Why can't we do this online? why is it that just because it's online, that we can just be a totally rude and obnoxious person, when we are not allowed to do this in real life to our families and friends??? And if it is because of a condition we have (that maybe we are afraid to face up to), then maybe we should face up to it, and take the proper measures to avoid those situations.

    Those of us who know autistic people know that its just training they need. But higher functioning ones are harder. Because we all know they have a problem, but maybe they have avoided diagnosis, or maybe they have got it, but ignore it. And because they are able to get have a job, we all think its ok. And that their behavior can be anything they want so long as its online with "not real people".

    Am I making sense?
    They call it a spectrum for a reason.

    I don't want to talk about my personal situation. People so weird and prying here it bugs me out. But I do like your compassionate tone.

    What I mean is that some people on the more functioning end of the spectrum, can and do cause moral harm. Which is sinful. Obviously. So my question is, should we try to encourage those people to take a step back from public internet access for the sake of avoiding that moral harm.

    If some people are taking it so personally here on the forum, then there are a number of reasons. Yes it could be their melancholic temperament. But it could also be some people who are afraid to get diagnosed, because it would mean them having to think about their behavior online.

    I think we should be considerate of people online just as we are considerate of people just as we are in real life. In real life we avoid certain situations (like I mentioned above) which cause us to cause harm to others. Why can't we do this online? why is it that just because it's online, that we can just be a totally rude and obnoxious person, when we are not allowed to do this in real life to our families and friends??? And if it is because of a condition we have (that maybe we are afraid to face up to), then maybe we should face up to it, and take the proper measures to avoid those situations.

    Those of us who know autistic people know that its just training they need. But higher functioning ones are harder. Because we all know they have a problem, but maybe they have avoided diagnosis, or maybe they have got it, but ignore it. And because they are able to get have a job, we all think its ok. And that their behavior can be anything they want so long as its online with "not real people".

    Am I making sense?

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #46 on: December 19, 2025, 04:13:03 AM »
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  • I'm not joking, but thanks for actually seriously addressing these concerns, instead of making weird accusations against me like other people.

    You're right. In the middle ages these people were tolerated. But so were whore houses. So that's not always a measure.

    The issue is that people with certain conditions, objectively cause moral harm to others if they are allowed to do certain things. Those of us who have alcoholics in the family know this. We don't give them a drink when they are in our company. Because its for their own good. Because they have a problem that will cause them harm if they are allowed to do certain things.

    I'm not talking about locking people up. I'm not even talking about government intervention. I'm talking about something in between. The kind of thing that is left up to families to make decisions about, people they love, and how they respond to their condition. That's it. I'm sorry that some other people seem to be taking this so personally. I wonder why that is.
    Definitely no weird accusations! Sometimes it’s hard to pick up the tone online if someone is joking. I’m more polite online than in real life usually 😆 I think of someone has a family they’re close to it keeps them in check, so yes I guess if a mother has a son who is always online it’s good to ask him what he’s doing… might be something harmful. I don’t know what could be done about mentally ill and those with certain conditions like autism going on chat forums d writing insane things. Unless they’re breaking the law it’s something we just have to put up with. In my country (uk) there seem to be an awful lot of people saying they have autism and trying to get diagnosed, even as adults. No idea why. Perhaps they want to have something ‘different’ about them.


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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #47 on: December 19, 2025, 04:17:50 AM »
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  • They call it a spectrum for a reason.

    I don't want to talk about my personal situation. People so weird and prying here it bugs me out. But I do like your compassionate tone.

    What I mean is that some people on the more functioning end of the spectrum, can and do cause moral harm. Which is sinful. Obviously. So my question is, should we try to encourage those people to take a step back from public internet access for the sake of avoiding that moral harm.

    If some people are taking it so personally here on the forum, then there are a number of reasons. Yes it could be their melancholic temperament. But it could also be some people who are afraid to get diagnosed, because it would mean them having to think about their behavior online.

    I think we should be considerate of people online just as we are considerate of people just as we are in real life. In real life we avoid certain situations (like I mentioned above) which cause us to cause harm to others. Why can't we do this online? why is it that just because it's online, that we can just be a totally rude and obnoxious person, when we are not allowed to do this in real life to our families and friends??? And if it is because of a condition we have (that maybe we are afraid to face up to), then maybe we should face up to it, and take the proper measures to avoid those situations.

    Those of us who know autistic people know that its just training they need. But higher functioning ones are harder. Because we all know they have a problem, but maybe they have avoided diagnosis, or maybe they have got it, but ignore it. And because they are able to get have a job, we all think its ok. And that their behavior can be anything they want so long as its online with "not real people".

    Am I making sense?
    They call it a spectrum for a reason.

    I don't want to talk about my personal situation. People so weird and prying here it bugs me out. But I do like your compassionate tone.

    What I mean is that some people on the more functioning end of the spectrum, can and do cause moral harm. Which is sinful. Obviously. So my question is, should we try to encourage those people to take a step back from public internet access for the sake of avoiding that moral harm.

    If some people are taking it so personally here on the forum, then there are a number of reasons. Yes it could be their melancholic temperament. But it could also be some people who are afraid to get diagnosed, because it would mean them having to think about their behavior online.

    I think we should be considerate of people online just as we are considerate of people just as we are in real life. In real life we avoid certain situations (like I mentioned above) which cause us to cause harm to others. Why can't we do this online? why is it that just because it's online, that we can just be a totally rude and obnoxious person, when we are not allowed to do this in real life to our families and friends??? And if it is because of a condition we have (that maybe we are afraid to face up to), then maybe we should face up to it, and take the proper measures to avoid those situations.

    Those of us who know autistic people know that its just training they need. But higher functioning ones are harder. Because we all know they have a problem, but maybe they have avoided diagnosis, or maybe they have got it, but ignore it. And because they are able to get have a job, we all think its ok. And that their behavior can be anything they want so long as its online with "not real people".

    Am I making sense?
    I am told I’m sanguine so never considered the post might be about me!! 😆😆Maybe if you’d said people should spellcheck what they write before posting it could  be about me. Why no edit button Matthew!?!?!? If you have someone you’re close to who is causing problems online all you can do is talk to them or get someone else to talk to them. Unless they’re breaking the law you can’t do anything else. 

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #48 on: December 19, 2025, 04:23:53 AM »
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  • Can you provide some examples of the  high-functioning austist's harmful online behavior that you're referring to?
    John 15:19  If you had been of the world, the world would love its own: but because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #49 on: December 19, 2025, 06:11:37 AM »
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  • Can you provide some examples of the  high-functioning austist's harmful online behavior that you're referring to?
    In this post They're accusing Ladislaus of being autistic. That post is a continuation of the other I guess. The OP doesn't say it explicitly, but I understand the post as an attack on Ladislaus.


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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #50 on: December 19, 2025, 06:15:40 AM »
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  • They call it a spectrum for a reason.

    I don't want to talk about my personal situation. People so weird and prying here it bugs me out. But I do like your compassionate tone.

    What I mean is that some people on the more functioning end of the spectrum, can and do cause moral harm. Which is sinful. Obviously. So my question is, should we try to encourage those people to take a step back from public internet access for the sake of avoiding that moral harm.

    If some people are taking it so personally here on the forum, then there are a number of reasons. Yes it could be their melancholic temperament. But it could also be some people who are afraid to get diagnosed, because it would mean them having to think about their behavior online.

    I think we should be considerate of people online just as we are considerate of people just as we are in real life. In real life we avoid certain situations (like I mentioned above) which cause us to cause harm to others. Why can't we do this online? why is it that just because it's online, that we can just be a totally rude and obnoxious person, when we are not allowed to do this in real life to our families and friends??? And if it is because of a condition we have (that maybe we are afraid to face up to), then maybe we should face up to it, and take the proper measures to avoid those situations.

    Those of us who know autistic people know that its just training they need. But higher functioning ones are harder. Because we all know they have a problem, but maybe they have avoided diagnosis, or maybe they have got it, but ignore it. And because they are able to get have a job, we all think its ok. And that their behavior can be anything they want so long as its online with "not real people".

    Am I making sense?
    They call it a spectrum for a reason.

    I don't want to talk about my personal situation. People so weird and prying here it bugs me out. But I do like your compassionate tone.

    What I mean is that some people on the more functioning end of the spectrum, can and do cause moral harm. Which is sinful. Obviously. So my question is, should we try to encourage those people to take a step back from public internet access for the sake of avoiding that moral harm.

    If some people are taking it so personally here on the forum, then there are a number of reasons. Yes it could be their melancholic temperament. But it could also be some people who are afraid to get diagnosed, because it would mean them having to think about their behavior online.

    I think we should be considerate of people online just as we are considerate of people just as we are in real life. In real life we avoid certain situations (like I mentioned above) which cause us to cause harm to others. Why can't we do this online? why is it that just because it's online, that we can just be a totally rude and obnoxious person, when we are not allowed to do this in real life to our families and friends??? And if it is because of a condition we have (that maybe we are afraid to face up to), then maybe we should face up to it, and take the proper measures to avoid those situations.

    Those of us who know autistic people know that its just training they need. But higher functioning ones are harder. Because we all know they have a problem, but maybe they have avoided diagnosis, or maybe they have got it, but ignore it. And because they are able to get have a job, we all think its ok. And that their behavior can be anything they want so long as its online with "not real people".

    Am I making sense?
    I would say you are overthinking it, there isn't much difference to what high functioning autists do online and what normal people do online. Also the internet isn't personal which is part of why people are more upfront and direct and rude, the other part is anonymity and lack of physical violence to persons because some people can't handle certain things but reality can't be ignored just because you get upset over something.

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #51 on: December 19, 2025, 06:54:58 AM »
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  • "girlytrad" has been banned for one reason and one reason only: lying about his gender on the forum.

    I take that VERY seriously.

    None of his posts have been deleted, none have even been edited. And yet he's permanently banned from the forum.

    I won't say I agree with his posts. I won't say I agree with ANY of the contents of his posts. But it spurs discussion, and there is nothing morally wrong with expressing his ideas. The ideas themselves are insane, but if I deleted all "stupidity" from CathInfo, well -- the forum would take up a lot less hard drive space.

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #52 on: December 19, 2025, 09:07:19 AM »
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  • "girlytrad" has been banned for one reason and one reason only: lying about his gender on the forum.

    I take that VERY seriously.

    None of his posts have been deleted, none have even been edited. And yet he's permanently banned from the forum.

    I won't say I agree with his posts. I won't say I agree with ANY of the contents of his posts. But it spurs discussion, and there is nothing morally wrong with expressing his ideas. The ideas themselves are insane, but if I deleted all "stupidity" from CathInfo, well -- the forum would take up a lot less hard drive space.

    Human beings gonna human.

    But break the forum rules, and you're out of here.
    Kudos to you for this.  I suspect he was also that journalist/goat-lover you banned a few months ago....can't remember his name.


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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #53 on: December 19, 2025, 10:26:03 AM »
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  • "girlytrad" has been banned for one reason and one reason only: lying about his gender on the forum.

    I take that VERY seriously.

    None of his posts have been deleted, none have even been edited. And yet he's permanently banned from the forum.

    I won't say I agree with his posts. I won't say I agree with ANY of the contents of his posts. But it spurs discussion, and there is nothing morally wrong with expressing his ideas. The ideas themselves are insane, but if I deleted all "stupidity" from CathInfo, well -- the forum would take up a lot less hard drive space.

    Human beings gonna human.

    But break the forum rules, and you're out of here.

    Yeah, I immediately detected that from the OP.  It wasn't just the topic, but the tone and writing style.  No woman would speak about autistic people that way, without any hint of empathy, or compassion for their plight ... just in a very cold logical way.  Sure, men often do that ... but not women.

    As soon as I started reading, I glanced at the account, saw the female indicator, and immediately though "there's absolutely no way that a woman wrote this ... zero chance".  There was that one Saturday Night Live character who use to mock "girlymen", so I took the name "girlytrad" to be a mockery of wimpy effeminate Traditional Catholics ... but then I would expect at least identifying yourself as a man.

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #54 on: December 19, 2025, 10:31:08 AM »
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  • In this post They're accusing Ladislaus of being autistic. That post is a continuation of the other I guess. The OP doesn't say it explicitly, but I understand the post as an attack on Ladislaus.
    Are you sure the post is an attack on someone? The OP said they had some problems within their family with autistic people. No idea why someone would pretend to be female on here if they’re male. Perhaps they don’t want anyone to guess who they are in real life… if part of a large TLM parish for example..??

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #55 on: December 19, 2025, 10:32:32 AM »
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  • In this post They're accusing Ladislaus of being autistic. That post is a continuation of the other I guess. The OP doesn't say it explicitly, but I understand the post as an attack on Ladislaus.

    Yes, that's what I inferred also, but ... whatever.  It's so idiotic, since I don't have a single trace of autism, so the poster would do well to attribute some other etiology to my character flaws.  I didn't even care at some point, other than that he was derailing that other thread.

    But that's not why I called "girlytrad" out, because of the prior attacks.  It was just painfully obvious to me that "NO WOMAN WOULD EVER WRITE THAT", with that tone, zero empathy for autistic people, and just the general writing style was not the least bit feminine.


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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #56 on: December 19, 2025, 10:33:30 AM »
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  • Yeah, I immediately detected that from the OP.  It wasn't just the topic, but the tone and writing style.  No woman would speak about autistic people that way, without any hint of empathy, or compassion for their plight ... just in a very cold logical way.  Sure, men often do that ... but not women.

    As soon as I started reading, I glanced at the account, saw the female indicator, and immediately thought ot allot "there's absolutely no way that a woman wrote this ... zero chance".  There was that one Saturday Night Live character who use to mock "girlymen", so I took the name "girlytrad" to be a mockery of wimpy effeminate Traditional Catholics ... but then I would expect at least identifying yourself as a man.
    Not all women have empathy. Maybe she’s got a cluster B personality disorder. Psychopaths don’t have empathy I’m told.

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #57 on: December 19, 2025, 10:35:02 AM »
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  • "girlytrad" has been banned for one reason and one reason only: lying about his gender on the forum.

    I take that VERY seriously.

    None of his posts have been deleted, none have even been edited. And yet he's permanently banned from the forum.

    I won't say I agree with his posts. I won't say I agree with ANY of the contents of his posts. But it spurs discussion, and there is nothing morally wrong with expressing his ideas. The ideas themselves are insane, but if I deleted all "stupidity" from CathInfo, well -- the forum would take up a lot less hard drive space.

    Human beings gonna human.

    But break the forum rules, and you're out of here.
    How did you manage to prove girlytrad was lying about being female?

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #58 on: December 19, 2025, 10:38:54 AM »
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  • Are you sure the post is an attack on someone? The OP said they had some problems within their family with autistic people. No idea why someone would pretend to be female on here if they’re male. Perhaps they don’t want anyone to guess who they are in real life… if part of a large TLM parish for example..??
    The OP was advocating for government and community censorship of "autists" who he characterized as abnormal and incapable of making sound moral judgments.  Plus he violated forum rules by pretending to be a woman.  What a coincidence that someone flaunting forum rules wanted someone else to be banned because they were supposedly incapable of lawful and moral behavior.  You seem to know a lot about his motives.  How do you know he attends a large TLM parish?  It's almost as if you know this gender-fluid troll.

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    Re: Allow autists on the internet?
    « Reply #59 on: December 19, 2025, 10:42:32 AM »
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  • The OP was advocating for government and community censorship of "autists" who he characterized as abnormal and incapable of making sound moral judgments.  Plus he violated forum rules by pretending to be a woman.  What a coincidence that someone flaunting forum rules wanted someone else to be banned because they were supposedly incapable of lawful and moral behavior.  You seem to know a lot about his motives.  How do you know he attends a large TLM parish?  It's almost as if you know this gender-fluid troll.
    I was wondering how Matthew discovered beyond doubt he was lying about his gender. 

    No I don’t know who he/she is.