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Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #120 on: Yesterday at 04:45:28 PM »
I thought her advice was fine. And how ironic, you displayed “ignorance and judgement” on the situation I described, assuming that I could have done something.
Please explain how I displayed "ignorance and judgement" on your statement.
I asked questions and yes I assumed IF you saw her before Mass you then could have assisted her.

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Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #121 on: Yesterday at 05:04:12 PM »
Please explain how I displayed "ignorance and judgement" on your statement.
I asked questions and yes I assumed IF you saw her before Mass you then could have assisted her.
Read your response to me and tell me that doesn’t come off as judgemental. “Oh you could have done this” “Why didn’t you do this” My point of the comment was how there was immodesty not being addressed in SSPX chapels. You didn’t see the point and jumped to conclusions. And then you pretend to be the victim when someone else is doing it to you. 


Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #122 on: Yesterday at 05:15:25 PM »
 My point of the comment was how there was immodesty not being addressed in SSPX chapels. 
And my point was IF you saw it before Mass why not address it.

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Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #123 on: Yesterday at 05:52:09 PM »
Once in front of St Nicolas du Chardonnet, as we were speaking with the priest, he noticed a miniskirted girl about to enter the church. He broke off our conversation , explained to her that she wasn't properly dressed, and her embarrassed male friend came to the priest to explain that he was bringing her to visit a church for the first time.

The priest's reply was that her dress was a scandal and that bad example has far more effect on others than a good example, and that she could return when she better dressed.

And as if nothing happened, the priest turned to us and resumed the conversation.
Holy based. I wish sspx priests were more like that, I've seen ladies without veils, backs and chests exposed, sleeveless shirts, slit legged dresses, tight clothes all receive communion...

Re: Advice on immodest adult daughter
« Reply #124 on: Yesterday at 10:39:18 PM »
If as you say she doesn't return for a small reason because I've handled it badly then yes it is my fault.
You have no idea what the circuмstances were so I'll ignore you arrogance and judgement in the matter.
I was not pretending to know the circuмstances, but was responding to the situation according to what you said. It seemed your conscience was tormented unnecessarily, and my message was an attempt to relieve it.

In any case, the following principles have always applied in basic Catholic morality, which is what I was getting at.

Let's say you were utterly nasty to her. Yes, being nasty is a sin, but for her to leave because of that, judging an entire chapel, mission, whatever it was (or even the traditional Catholic Faith, for example), on one person who is not even the priest, is certainly her own fault, and does not lessen her sin of immodesty before God. 

That's like saying someone losing the Faith due to being abused by a priest is not at fault. Of course, the priest is evil for scandalizing a vulnerable person and committed sin, but it is still their own fault for losing the Faith.