Author Topic: God wants singles to use the Internet (Read 3240 times)

Luker · « **Reply #15 on:** April 26, 2013, 11:19:15 PM »

Quote from: Charlotte NC Bill

I don't recommend the internet...especially when one person is in Fla..and the other in Oregon...And it takes them a yr or so to meet...They e-ml, chat on the phone and invest a lot of time and effort...They build up a sense, rather they instill a sense, that this person is the cure for their loneliness and every other problem...they convince themselves, very often, that this person-who may be very incompatible-is meant for them...It happens all the time...No..most people are incompatible in the first place...the idea that some stranger on the internet is compatible..Let God put the person in your PHYSICAL path.

Point well taken. I can say for myself though, my powers of self-deception are legendary. I certainly wouldn't need 1000 miles between us! Fortunetely now as a Catholic I have recourse to prayer, the sacraments and especially the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass.

Whether God has me meet a wife a 1000 miles away on the internet or bump into her after Mass, I will just try to seek, know and do God's holy will and not my own. Then I know I am on safe ground.

Luke

eddiearent · « **Reply #16 on:** April 27, 2013, 04:46:39 PM »

I think one may be right. I've been trying SSPXsingles.com and hopefully that'll be God's will of finding a sweet spouse.

My old strategy of finding a secular lady and converting her while with the best of intentions usually offers a few good evenings of company but then it tanks for a variety of reasons. The only downfall is that I am in Florida. There are positives and negatives of such a courtship. But, I decide to keep all avenues open as you never know. God works in mysterious ways. I cannot say no to any particular way until I find the right lady. It's important though to not compromise who we are as a people.

Michael Rooney · « **Reply #17 on:** May 09, 2013, 03:58:03 PM »

Quote from: Charlotte NC Bill

I don't recommend the internet...especially when one person is in Fla..and the other in Oregon...And it takes them a yr or so to meet...They e-ml, chat on the phone and invest a lot of time and effort...They build up a sense, rather they instill a sense, that this person is the cure for their loneliness and every other problem...they convince themselves, very often, that this person-who may be very incompatible-is meant for them...It happens all the time...No..most people are incompatible in the first place...the idea that some stranger on the internet is compatible..Let God put the person in your PHYSICAL path.

I agree a lot of what you say in this post, but I think that in the current climate, with Traddies spread so widely throughout the world, the Internet is a good means of getting in touch with people who may be a potential spouse. You don't agree to marriage until you've met the person and spent some time with them. So by the time it comes to marriage, hopefully the person will no longer be a stranger.

It's a different context, but I have made some good contacts over the Internet. We got in touch with other homeschooling families over the Internet, and some have become good friends now.

Matthew · « **Reply #18 on:** May 09, 2013, 04:03:34 PM »

Quote from: Charlotte NC Bill

I don't recommend the internet...especially when one person is in Fla..and the other in Oregon...And it takes them a yr or so to meet...They e-ml, chat on the phone and invest a lot of time and effort...They build up a sense, rather they instill a sense, that this person is the cure for their loneliness and every other problem...they convince themselves, very often, that this person-who may be very incompatible-is meant for them...It happens all the time...No..most people are incompatible in the first place...the idea that some stranger on the internet is compatible..Let God put the person in your PHYSICAL path.

Who are you to limit God? What's so magical about a spouse being in one's "Physical path"?

If being physically present from the very beginning were so critical, then all the pagan girls around you would have an advantage over various Trad girls 500 miles away. Would you say that's true? I hope not!

You can't limit God, tempt God, lay out conditions with God, or expect Him to work a miracle for you. If your local SSPX chapel has 30 people, none of them single, you can't just "hope against hope" that God will create a woman from the slime of the earth for you. It's not going to happen.

Remember the story about the man stuck on the top of a house during a flood? He kept saying "No, I don't need your help. God will save me." as two different boats and a helicopter attempted to rescue him. He died in the flood, and asked God, "What's the deal? I thought you would save me. I had complete trust in you!" and He said, "What do you mean? I sent 2 boats and a helicopter!"

Maybe God wants you to have recourse to the Internet. He did put you in 2013. I'd keep an open mind.

Matto · « **Reply #19 on:** May 09, 2013, 04:48:18 PM »

There are not a lot of women at my local chapel, but if I went to a chapel where there were a lot of marriageable women I would look there first.

If I was looking for a wife I would look on the internet. Maybe I would try sedevacantist singles, though I am not a real sedevacantist. Or if there is an SSPX singles, I would try that. I think the internet is a great way to communicate, so I don't see why one would not use it to help find a good spouse. Not everything modern is all bad.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #20 on:** May 09, 2013, 04:56:01 PM »

I agree with NC Charlotte Bill.

No matter how fond you are of an internet acquaintance, there just isn't the same spark. (at least for me).

Although that can be a good reason to become friends online. Because there is much less pain in being disappointed.

Although sometimes people make the assumption there is no harm in becoming close to someone online, and then find their feelings have become strong. A woman confessed to me how foolish she felt for having becoming attached to someone online.

ServusSpiritusSancti · « **Reply #21 on:** May 09, 2013, 05:01:12 PM »

Quote from: Telesphorus

I agree with NC Charlotte Bill.

No matter how fond you are of an internet acquaintance, there just isn't the same spark. (at least for me).

Although that can be a good reason to become friends online. Because there is much less pain in being disappointed.

Although sometimes people make the assumption there is no harm in becoming close to someone online, and then find their feelings have become strong. A woman confessed to me how foolish she felt for having becoming attached to someone online.

I understand what you and Bill are saying. However, some Trads don't live in a very Traditional area, and thus have no other alternative except to find a spouse online.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #22 on:** May 09, 2013, 05:02:11 PM »

Quote from: ServusSpiritusSancti

I understand what you and Bill are saying. However, some Trads don't live in a very Traditional area, and thus have no other alternative except to find a spouse online.

Right. It's just it's best not to be very serious until meeting in person.