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Traditional Catholic Faith => Catholic Living in the Modern World => Topic started by: Cantarella on September 26, 2018, 11:08:43 AM

Title: A Checklist For A Godly Wife
Post by: Cantarella on September 26, 2018, 11:08:43 AM

A checklist for Christian men seeking a godly wife:

* Make sure she is a Christian and is living her Christian faith. She should be feminine. In other words, she should be glad she’s a woman, not angry or uncertain about it. Woman was made from man, for man, brought to man, and named by man.

* She should know the divine order. Man is the leader. Woman is the follower. Man is the initiator. Woman is the responder. 

* She should acknowledge Christ as Lord. Wives are to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord.

* She should choose to obey God and to accept her husband’s destiny. In other words, if she marries a business man who later becomes a preacher and a pastor, she cannot say, “I married a business man. I did not want to be married to a preacher.” His destiny is her destiny. She is to obey and follow her husband. This is not to say that she is a zero. A help meet is some one. A zero cannot be a helper. One plus one equals two, not one plus zero.

* She needs a sense of humor. She doesn’t have to be a comedienne, but she should have a good sense of humor.

* She should be willing to lay down a career entirely to be a mother. Watch out for any woman who talks about “rights”.

* She should have the unfading loveliness of a calm and gentle spirit. As I Peter 3 teaches to a Christian woman living with a non-Christian husband or a husband who is not acting like a Christian. A calm and gentle spirit is an attribute to any woman.

* She should know love is not a feeling, but an action. Feelings are no anchor for a marriage.

* She should know how to cook.

* She should like some of the same things such as books, sports, politics, hobbies, movies as her husband.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. 
Proverbs 18:22

https://thetransformedwife.com/a-checklist-for-a-godly-wife/

Title: Re: A Checklist For A Godly Wife
Post by: Pax Vobis on September 26, 2018, 02:07:50 PM

Don't forget ironing.  ;)

Title: Re: A Checklist For A Godly Wife
Post by: Neil Obstat on September 26, 2018, 03:35:03 PM

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SQUARE ONE                                   

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Compile a list of Scripture readings that are inimical to feminists, just selections of St. Paul would be sufficient.
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Get those together in one place, printed out on paper would be perhaps best, and ask her to read them aloud to you in person.
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Watch her mannerisms, tone of voice, and especially pay attention to comments she has along the way.
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If there is not sufficient time to finish in one sitting, take the pages away, and make arrangements to finish later.
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Do not allow her to take the pages off to some other location where she can study and rehearse her fake performance.
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You need to see her reactions to reading this material while unprepared for how she "feels" about what she is reading.
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Do not engage in any discussion, but at most take some notes, and say, "We can discuss this after you finish the pages."
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If she can't manage to make it through the pages, then she fails the test and she is not eligible material. Case closed.
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If she gets upset at your request for her to do this, ask her what she's upset about, it's only Scripture.
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Maybe she'll be willing to admit that there are some things in Scripture that she does not accept: IOW she fails, again. Done.
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If she can finish, then see what happens in the discussion phase.
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Go back and discuss the places where she wanted to go over the text.
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It would be good to have a Catholic Commentary on hand to answer any interpretation questions.
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You can save yourself years of problems, conflict, family discord and perhaps separation or worse, by doing this simple exercise.
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You can avoid ruining your life by NOT doing this simple exercise.

Title: Re: A Checklist For A Godly Wife
Post by: Neil Obstat on September 26, 2018, 03:38:42 PM

Quote from: Pax Vobis on September 26, 2018, 02:07:50 PM

Don't forget ironing.  ;)

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That's got to be the most myopic, inconsequential inanity I've ever heard.
If you want your clothes ironed, go to the cleaners.
Marriage isn't about laundry service.
You need a mother, not a wife.
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* She should know how to cook.

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Again, she should be willing to stay out of the kitchen if her man wants to cook.
She should be willing to LEARN how to cook, even if she doesn't enjoy it.
If her husband enjoys cooking, he should be able to do so without her interference. 
The kitchen should not be a war zone.
If it is a war zone, it's probably because the wife isn't able to read St. Paul and be okay with it. 
Back to Square One, see above.
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Title: Re: A Checklist For A Godly Wife
Post by: Matthew on September 26, 2018, 03:49:54 PM

Quote from: Neil Obstat on September 26, 2018, 03:35:03 PM

You can avoid ruining your life by NOT doing this simple exercise.

Avoid, ruining, Not -- too many negatives there. Getting confusing.
Are you saying that you're just kidding about this exercise?  Everyone wants to avoid ruining his life.

Title: Re: A Checklist For A Godly Wife
Post by: Neil Obstat on September 26, 2018, 04:10:19 PM

Quote from: Matthew on September 26, 2018, 03:49:54 PM

Avoid, ruining, Not -- too many negatives there. Getting confusing.
Are you saying that you're just kidding about this exercise?  Everyone wants to avoid ruining his life.

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You can avoid THIS: ruining your life by NOT doing this simple exercise: by doing this exercise.
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You can avoid ruining your life by doing this exercise, because if you do NOT do this exercise, you might not avoid problems later.
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Non-negative version:
If you avoid this exercise you might invite disaster in the future.
Think of it as an insurance policy -- the one-time premium is the exercise, which insures against future problems.
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Most insurance policies involve the annoying fact of numerous timely payments in the future.
This one only requires one simple payment in the present, one not too difficult to accomplish, with many future benefit times.

Title: Re: A Checklist For A Godly Wife
Post by: Neil Obstat on September 26, 2018, 04:32:28 PM

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I have known several very happy marriages where the husband does most of the cooking, while the wife steers clear of the kitchen.
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I have known of unhappy marriages where the wife interferes with her husband's presence in the kitchen.
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Sometimes the wife's cooking isn't much to be proud of, but she resents her husband's ability to cook -- COVETEOUS, ENVIOUS.
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Even if the wife is a good cook, if her husband wants to prepare a meal, she should not stand in his way, or complain about it.
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She ought to be happy that she can take some time off.
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But some women are prone to look for opportunities to be upset about something, etc., etc.
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It's quite possible that the husband finds enjoyment and fulfillment in preparing certain recipes, and faces having to pretend that he approves of the way his wife does the same thing. Why bother with that? Just let him have his fun! 
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The female tendency toward pride, jealousy, envy, contempt, is a great weakness, which can do a lot of damage.
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She should learn to put her pride on the shelf for a while and enjoy the reward of her husband's efforts. 
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It's not about competition. Life doesn't have to be an ongoing conflict or a race to see who's better at something.