Unnamed people, however, may not want their close relations soliciting advice from complete strangers and putting their story out for the world to see, even if no one can figure out who they are.
...but, when it comes right down to it, it's too bad for them.
There is no gossip, detraction, or anything else involved when a person isn't NAMED or IDENTIFIED.
All those sins of the tongue involve taking away the GOOD NAME of one's neighbor. But if you are talking about a nameless hypothetical, there is no NAME involved. It's simple.
Now if you give enough information that everyone -- or even just some people -- can figure it out, that's a different story. It is considered IDENTIFYING THEM, which is the same as naming them, for morality purposes.
So if my wife posted something in the Anonymous forum, "My husband, who runs a traditional Catholic forum...did such and such." might as well post, "Matthew did such and such" because there aren't a whole lot of trad Catholic fora.
Or even if she said, "He works from home, and he doesn't help out enough with our 5 kids." that would probably narrow it down a bit too much! A) Cathinfo poster B) Male C) works from home D) 5 kids
So if you're going to ask a question like that, better make sure you don't give yourself (or the person) away!
Or if you mention that you gave the Fathers razors during their visit, then you mention that same detail in the anonymous post. Things like that can link you, so you have to be careful. There are a lot of detectives here on CathInfo -- amateur ones, at least.