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Traditional Catholic Faith => Catholic Living in the Modern World => Topic started by: Mama ChaCha on March 21, 2014, 11:59:48 AM

Title: "I used to be Catholic"
Post by: Mama ChaCha on March 21, 2014, 11:59:48 AM

I recently discovered that someone I know was raised Catholic but left the Faith.
I really dont know how to treat her. To me, this is saying "I used to be smart but I decided to be stupid."

The problem now is that I can't pretend that I don't know this. I can't respect someone who used to have everything but threw Iit away to have nothing, but I have to work with her so I can't just avoid her.
What do you do when you come across the unavoidable ex-catholic?  :scared2:

Title: "I used to be Catholic"
Post by: JezusDeKoning on March 21, 2014, 06:15:02 PM

No such thing as a former Catholic.

Title: "I used to be Catholic"
Post by: Matto on March 21, 2014, 06:24:22 PM

Were they really Catholic or were they just Novus Ordo?

Title: "I used to be Catholic"
Post by: songbird on March 21, 2014, 07:03:30 PM

What's to be afraid of?  BE yourself! Catholic as you have always been.  Do as Christ did.  He listened and asked questions. when opportunity knocks,  take the Holy Ghost with you.

Title: "I used to be Catholic"
Post by: Mabel on March 21, 2014, 11:48:01 PM

Allow me to translate: I know nothing about the Catholic religion, my grandmother forced my parents to get me baptized and I went to church with her once. I know everything about Catholicism.


Be a good example, let her come to your with questions, answer them without emotion or expectation, and always allow the joy and peace of Our Lord and the True Faith to be reflected in all of your actions. These people do not do well with direct confrontation or admonition but be prepared to counter ignorant statements, if necessary.

Btw, almost nothing drives me crazier than that statement. Except for when they also tell me about their adultery or cohabitation. Yikes.

Title: "I used to be Catholic"
Post by: Capt McQuigg on March 22, 2014, 09:35:50 AM

If you come across a "former Catholic" then ask them Matto's question.  Then go from there.

Title: "I used to be Catholic"
Post by: Frances on March 22, 2014, 07:14:35 PM

 :dancing-banana:
Ask her why she left the Church.  Chances are, she has not the slightest knowledge of her "former" faith.  Listen to her reasons and take it from there. Do not get defensive or confrontational.  Think of yourself as an educator.  Inform don't push, at least, not at first.

Title: "I used to be Catholic"
Post by: Mama ChaCha on March 23, 2014, 10:35:11 AM

Obviously she's a novus ordite, and obviously she doesn't know jack about catholicism. Like pretty much every other "former catholic" they just want to do whatever they want to do, with no consequences.  Has anyone ever met someone who left the Church who didn't leave because what they want to do conflicts with God's commandments?

My issue is in dealing with these people with patience. To me, this is the height of intentional idiocy. Leaving catholicism is like getting to mile 25 of a marathon and then just turning around and sprinting back towards the start line. What's the point of that? It's really hard not to ream her butt every time I look at her.

But I guess some people are just obstinate.
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  I'll keep praying for her to come back to the Faith and for me not to wring her neck when she jabbers on about 'no offense, but thats the way it is with catholics.' It's not like I'm any better than she is, in fact I'm probably worse because I do know better and still somehow manage to sin grievously.

Title: "I used to be Catholic"
Post by: stgobnait on March 23, 2014, 10:46:53 AM

tell her, you yourself, pray everyday, not to lose the Faith... :boxer: