Author Topic: "I used to be Catholic" (Read 1665 times)

Mama ChaCha · « **on:** March 21, 2014, 11:59:48 AM »

I recently discovered that someone I know was raised Catholic but left the Faith.
I really dont know how to treat her. To me, this is saying "I used to be smart but I decided to be stupid."

The problem now is that I can't pretend that I don't know this. I can't respect someone who used to have everything but threw Iit away to have nothing, but I have to work with her so I can't just avoid her.
What do you do when you come across the unavoidable ex-catholic? :scared2:

JezusDeKoning · « **Reply #1 on:** March 21, 2014, 06:15:02 PM »

No such thing as a former Catholic.

Matto · « **Reply #2 on:** March 21, 2014, 06:24:22 PM »

Were they really Catholic or were they just Novus Ordo?

songbird · « **Reply #3 on:** March 21, 2014, 07:03:30 PM »

What's to be afraid of? BE yourself! Catholic as you have always been. Do as Christ did. He listened and asked questions. when opportunity knocks, take the Holy Ghost with you.

Mabel · « **Reply #4 on:** March 21, 2014, 11:48:01 PM »

Allow me to translate: I know nothing about the Catholic religion, my grandmother forced my parents to get me baptized and I went to church with her once. I know everything about Catholicism.

Be a good example, let her come to your with questions, answer them without emotion or expectation, and always allow the joy and peace of Our Lord and the True Faith to be reflected in all of your actions. These people do not do well with direct confrontation or admonition but be prepared to counter ignorant statements, if necessary.

Btw, almost nothing drives me crazier than that statement. Except for when they also tell me about their adultery or cohabitation. Yikes.

Capt McQuigg · « **Reply #5 on:** March 22, 2014, 09:35:50 AM »

If you come across a "former Catholic" then ask them Matto's question. Then go from there.

Frances · « **Reply #6 on:** March 22, 2014, 07:14:35 PM »

:dancing-banana:
Ask her why she left the Church. Chances are, she has not the slightest knowledge of her "former" faith. Listen to her reasons and take it from there. Do not get defensive or confrontational. Think of yourself as an educator. Inform don't push, at least, not at first.

Mama ChaCha · « **Reply #7 on:** March 23, 2014, 10:35:11 AM »

Obviously she's a novus ordite, and obviously she doesn't know jack about catholicism. Like pretty much every other "former catholic" they just want to do whatever they want to do, with no consequences. Has anyone ever met someone who left the Church who didn't leave because what they want to do conflicts with God's commandments?

My issue is in dealing with these people with patience. To me, this is the height of intentional idiocy. Leaving catholicism is like getting to mile 25 of a marathon and then just turning around and sprinting back towards the start line. What's the point of that? It's really hard not to ream her butt every time I look at her.

But I guess some people are just obstinate.

I'll keep praying for her to come back to the Faith and for me not to wring her neck when she jabbers on about 'no offense, but thats the way it is with catholics.' It's not like I'm any better than she is, in fact I'm probably worse because I do know better and still somehow manage to sin grievously.

stgobnait · « **Reply #8 on:** March 23, 2014, 10:46:53 AM »

tell her, you yourself, pray everyday, not to lose the Faith... :boxer: