Regarding talking points. In 'Traditional Catholic land' it's usually Fr Feeney's dubious "excommunication" letter that is often used to detract from EENS and promote BoD. But actually looking at the content of the letter as well of the context and events that come after it becomes apparent that the their is an agenda against Feeney (really aganst Church Dogma of EENS) and when you look closely at the details these things just mentioned in fact support EENS and water baptism.
These was also a political involvement in this issue as use Merry points out in this excellent post.
https://www.cathinfo.com/baptism-of-desire-and-feeneyism/is-there-really-no-anti-bod-congregation/msg877581/#msg877581
I used to be all about MHFM, but I also continued investigating on my own. At first it was little things that didn't quite add up, and eventually it all began to compound.
The turning point for me was seeing that Pius XII taught BoD in something he published in the Acta. It wasn't invincible ignorance BoD which is false, but it's the actual true BoD, which is for believers that haven't managed to have been physically baptized without any guilt. They didn't neglect or avoid it. If BoD wasn't a thing, the Church would never delay baptism under any circuмstances; the Church isn't cruel or uncaring.
I began seeing inconsistencies in what the Dimonds would teach and some of the sources they would quote. When read in context, it didn't always quite line up with their interpretation. Then I stumbled upon Griff Ruby's articles and he systematically showed their manipulative use of sources. I would look up the sources to confirm what Griff was saying, since I couldn't simply trust him on his word, either. Eventually I realized that the Dimonds are simply a cult. I don't know what their intentions are, but I am not inclined to believe they have particularly good intentions.
You can call me a redditor or cringe or an NPC, but I have told you the truth, it's up to you if you want to investigate things passed your comfort zone. Also that sarcasm wasn't directed at you. Lad and I don't particularly like each other, though I think I dislike him more than he does me.