In Acts 10:44-48 it is mentioned that the grace of the Holy Ghost was poured out upon the gentiles before they were baptized with water. How does that fit into this whole discussion?
And what about NO infant baptisms, are they generally valid? I'm sure the SSPX would say they are. I'm getting a bit concerned now because I think I was baptized in the NO church before my parents found tradition. That would really suck to go through all this trouble of life and not be let into heaven if I manage to merit such a reward.
Them receiving the Holy Ghost in that instance doesn't mean they have been justified as with Baptism.
As for NO Baptisms, as long as the proper form and intent was used, it is valid. Literally anyone can perform a baptism provided they use the proper form "I baptize you in the Name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost", and intending to do what the Church does. So, unless whoever baptized you did and said something different, or did not have a proper intention (which is nullified by the simple fact they are carrying out a baptism, typically); then I wouldn't worry about it at all. I was baptized in the NO, and I don't doubt the validity of it, even though I do doubt by "confirmation" since the NO Bishop who did it was "ordained" in the 70s. (+Robert Morlino).
Could BoD help someone who received a faulty baptism, like wasn't there 10,000 invalid baptisms discovered recently because of a wrong word?
As for this, how exactly would BoD help someone in this situation? If they have the knowledge that their baptism was invalid, then they
need to have someone conditionally baptize them.
BoD advocates typically apply their argument to those who die either as a Catechumen (the traditional definition of BoD, referring to Ss. Thomas, Alphonsus, and Bellarmine) or because their
emotionalism makes it hard for them to accept that a non-Christian of great natural virtue is in Hell (a denial of the dogma of EENS). What you are suggesting there is nothing but emotionalism/sentimentalism, which does not save.