The only way a BOD works is when God's Providence is completely taken out of the formula, which is to say that with the divine providence, a BOD fails, without it, it works.
With the Divine Providence, God fulfills the desire by providing the sacrament, same as He does for all the baptized. Note the sacrament in and of itself does not reward salvation to anyone.
Without the Divine Providence, the person's presumed faith / contrition / perfect love saves them. Note a BOD in and of itself rewards salvation to all a BODers - this idea is entirely protestant and condemned by the Church.
That's not feeneyite, that plain old Catholicism.
Proving my point here gents.
Are the BODers in the room with you right now?
Is this really affecting your daily life that you are so wound up by it?