He was a victim of severe physical and sɛҳuąƖ abuse before he was adopted into our family. He has been with his adoptive parents since he was 9, and he is now nearly 18. For many years the mental health professionals have seen him as bipolar. His current psychiatrist, while not disputing this as a secondary diagnosis, believes that PTSD is his primary problem. This approach has worked much better, and has resulted in a decrease of medications. He used to cut himself regularly. Under this doctor's care he went for two years with out doing so. He recently had a relapse and ended up in the hospital for a few days, but is doing okay now.
I had always assumed that the cutting was motivated by suicidal feelings, but apparently this is not so. He does not want to kill himself, but finds the pain resulting in from cutting himself as a way to manage more upsetting emotional pain. His parents told me that for a long time the people treating him could only focus on how bad his symptoms were (Despite his mental health problems, he has never been what most people would see as a bad kid behaviorally.) When told this, the current psychiatrist said, "Actually, given what he has been through I would expect him to be much worse that he is." Some of my annoyance at the antisemitism on this board is due to the fact that the psychiatrist and therapist who have been the most helpful to him and the most concerned about him, as well as the most supportive of his religious beliefs and practices, have been Jєωs. One religious, the other secular.
He has a great devotion to St. Francis, and the Blessed Mother, prays the rosary daily, says the Jesus Prayer almost constantly, and assists at Mass or the Divine Liturgy almost daily. I don't know if he will ever be stable enough to be a brother. (He feels no call to the priesthood.) I will not blame this community at all if they decide this is not his vocation. Many, if not most orders, can't accept people who come to them with serious physical illnesses, so there is no reason to expect menial illness to be treated differently, I suppose. They are happy to stay in contact with him, and have welcomed him to visit after he is 18. They have also suggested that he become a Third Order Franciscan. Whatever happens, I am grateful for the kindness they have shown him.