Author Topic: Asking mother in law not to talk about God (Read 8256 times)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #15 on:** August 15, 2024, 06:00:33 PM »

Many believe that it’s ok to look but not touch. Looking is bad too. Many people aren’t reading their bibles and they aren’t hearing it from the pulpits.

Look at television especially soap operas. Adultery. Tv, movies and even music. How many times did I sing “I want Jessie’s girl.” Yikes.

AMDGJMJ · « **Reply #16 on:** August 16, 2024, 06:03:04 AM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on August 15, 2024, 11:26:25 AM

I’ve started to do that as well for a while now.

This isn’t something I’m looking for, she always has to say or send something unsolicited.

We've tried to explain things before but she doesn’t agree and isn’t interested in learning anything.

That’s fine, and thats why I don’t bring up things anymore. We’ve also asked her a couple of times not to take God’s name in vain when she’s talking to us because she does it ALL THE TIME but she still continues to do it. It’s like she doesn’t really care what we think.

I feel like if she doesn’t want to hear anything and doesn’t even respect what we ask her not to do with us, then I should be able to tell her I don’t want to hear anything having to do with God, Our Lady, or anything religious from her either.

Talking to her about her adultery probably won't be worth it...but she takes God's name in vain constantly? That in my opinion is unacceptable, especially if you have children who might pick up what she says and do so themselves.

I would definition lay down the law about that... Tell her it is for the sake of the children. What she does in her own home is her concern but what she does in your home and in a way that affects your family is yours. If she doesn't respect your wishes, I would try to visit as little as possible. Children are like sponges. I have known little 3 or 4 year old children who constantly take a God's name in vain because they are around family members who do so...

Praying for you and your family...

2Vermont · « **Reply #17 on:** August 16, 2024, 06:12:12 AM »

Quote from: AMDGJMJ on August 16, 2024, 06:03:04 AM

Talking to her about her adultery probably won't be worth it...but she takes God's name in vain constantly? That in my opinion is unacceptable, especially if you have children who might pick up what she says and do so themselves.

I would definition lay down the law about that... Tell her it is for the sake of the children. What she does in her own home is her concern but what she does in your home and in a way that affects your family is yours. If she doesn't respect your wishes, I would try to visit as little as possible. Children are like sponges. I have known little 3 or 4 year old children who constantly take a God's name in vain because they are around family members who do so...

Praying for you and your family...

Agreed. My questions upthread is an attempt to find out whether interactions can be limited/boundaries drawn.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #18 on:** August 17, 2024, 07:37:13 AM »

Jessie’s girl’s name is Jenny. Her number is 867-5309.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #19 on:** August 17, 2024, 09:25:33 AM »

I would think, given the circuмstances, limiting interaction is best. If that's how she treats you--an adult--what damage she could do to a trusting, believing child!

Sadly, we never allow our children over at their grandparents home unattended. Very rarely do they get to do something with Grandma unattended. They're not Catholic, we can't take that chance. Sounds like you're in the same boat.

Very sorry for your situation. If you don't take a respectful stand, who will show her the error of her ways?

To the husband: you'll have to be firm with your mother to protect your wife and children. It should not be your wife's place to correct your mother. It's hard enough being a daughter-in-law without doing that!

To the wife: Just throw away/delete her things without reading it. Block her email, if you have to. If she's not respecting boundaries, you have to address it yourself or have your husband address it.

Songbird's advice was very good.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #20 on:** August 17, 2024, 09:40:19 AM »

Growing up, I never heard my mother cuss. The last couple of years she has been taking the Lord’s name in vain too. Demonic possession? She talks about divorce many years. I remind her of her wedding vows for better or for worse.

I correct her almost every time she does it. One time she slipped and corrected herself. I thought it was a good start.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #21 on:** August 17, 2024, 09:52:26 AM »

Novus Ordo in some cases have caused divorces. These same divorced people hand out communion, lecturer, choir directors. The novus Ordo is so broken.

I was talking to my father about looking at other women is adultery He made a comment that it’s ok to look but not have sex with a woman. I told him that looking at another woman is adultery which is what Jesus said. He didn’t know.

There are many single men and women who marry or date people. That is adultery.

FarmerWife · « **Reply #22 on:** August 17, 2024, 11:48:26 AM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on August 17, 2024, 09:25:33 AM

I would think, given the circuмstances, limiting interaction is best. If that's how she treats you--an adult--what damage she could do to a trusting, believing child!

Sadly, we never allow our children over at their grandparents home unattended. Very rarely do they get to do something with Grandma unattended. They're not Catholic, we can't take that chance. Sounds like you're in the same boat.

Very sorry for your situation. If you don't take a respectful stand, who will show her the error of her ways?

To the husband: you'll have to be firm with your mother to protect your wife and children. It should not be your wife's place to correct your mother. It's hard enough being a daughter-in-law without doing that!

To the wife: Just throw away/delete her things without reading it. Block her email, if you have to. If she's not respecting boundaries, you have to address it yourself or have your husband address it.

Songbird's advice was very good.

If you followed along, it’s the wife’s mother not the husband’s.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #23 on:** August 17, 2024, 02:42:41 PM »

Sorry, I guess I thought they were both posting.

Regardless, the advice still applies. Although his wife should speak up to her mother, as well.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #24 on:** August 17, 2024, 11:00:38 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on August 17, 2024, 07:37:13 AM

Jessie’s girl’s name is Jenny. Her number is 867-5309.

Don't remember the last time I listened to that tune.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #25 on:** August 17, 2024, 11:16:52 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on August 14, 2024, 08:29:25 PM

Or about anything having to do with religion when she’s speaking to me or visiting. She’s novus ordo and living in adultery but she has convinced herself that God wants her to be happy and not be alone. She’s one of those very “religious” ones who talk about God and religious things all the time.

I wonder if this would be bad, prideful and uncharitable, or if it would make her reconsider that she’s not in a good position. It really bothers me when she talks about God or anything to do with religion because it’s like listening to an unrepentant criminal, say, a murder, do the same. It’s the same thing in principle and nobody would stand for that.

Your going about this the wrong way IMO.

Why should you be afraid or upset to talk about God with her? I'm not upset speaking to such people I'm more concerned how they'll react when I mention it and whether they can handle it, but I'd find ways to work it into the conversation, they'll distance themselves from me if they don't want to hear it, no need to shun them IMO... unless of course they are subverting your kids behind your back or other such things.

I'm reminded of Matthew 23:11-12... the greatest among us is the servant of the others... if you know more then you can help educate her... now there are perhaps certain boundaries depending on the situation.

If I were talking to an unrepentant criminal... I would say, yea your right, murder is evil, they did commit murder and your not as bad as them... but stealing is also part of the Ten Commandments too. You can learn something from these people too, you shouldn't write anyone off so to speak IMO.

Anyway, it's so difficult to give advice on such matters because I have only a very small portion of the whole story so take it with a grain of salt... There is also Our Lady untier of knots.

God Bless

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #26 on:** August 18, 2024, 03:44:06 PM »

OP here. Sorry for not giving more info.

MIL lives far away, she hasn’t visited since last year, so all interactions with her are through the phone.

To be honest communication with her has gone down a lot recently.

I’ve been thinking more about the future because we do have a baby, should’ve clarified that.

Thank you all for all the advice!

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #27 on:** August 19, 2024, 11:58:55 AM »

Cool. She lives far away.

Let’s all pray that your MIL and May our own relatives start following the real Jesus . May they believe and repent instead seeking pleasures and traps of Satan.

2Vermont · « **Reply #28 on:** August 19, 2024, 01:12:59 PM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on August 18, 2024, 03:44:06 PM

OP here. Sorry for not giving more info.

MIL lives far away, she hasn’t visited since last year, so all interactions with her are through the phone.

To be honest communication with her has gone down a lot recently.

I’ve been thinking more about the future because we do have a baby, should’ve clarified that.

Thank you all for all the advice!

Good. It sounds like things are slowly resolving on their own.

AMDGJMJ · « **Reply #29 on:** August 20, 2024, 07:43:28 AM »

Quote from: Änσnymσus on August 18, 2024, 03:44:06 PM

OP here. Sorry for not giving more info.

MIL lives far away, she hasn’t visited since last year, so all interactions with her are through the phone.

To be honest communication with her has gone down a lot recently.

I’ve been thinking more about the future because we do have a baby, should’ve clarified that.

Thank you all for all the advice!

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