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Author Topic: Would it be unreasonable to ask a potential spouse to live in a mobile home?  (Read 248 times)

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I'm a young man considering marriage. Housing is extremely expensive where I live (around $1500 for a 1 bedroom apartment) Also, I don't see myself being able to afford a regular house in this economy for at least 10 more years(if not more) I want  a large family but I feel like the only realistic way to make that happen would be to live in a mobile home (as they're a lot more affordable) If I got married and rented an apartment, I'd be forced to use NFP to limit family size given the high rent prices. 

Would it be unreasonable/wrong to ask a potential spouse to live in a mobile home once married? I haven't found anyone yet but am currently considering my options for marriage- so for now this is just theoretical. 

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No it would not be wrong, but you should ask her ahead of time ... and probably very early in the relationship.  If she agrees, I don't see a problem.  Perhaps look into buying a piece of land at least and then put a mobile home on it or else get a manufactured home (costs a bit more but still not terrible).  

They've done this on purpose, made housing unaffordable for many young people.  But also trust in God.  My brother started in an apartment and his Trad father-in-law was pushing NFP on him.  He refused.  Shortly after they had their second child, a penny stock he had bought took off to where he was able to buy a very nice house for cash.  If God wants you to be married and have a family, He'll work it out without requiring you to make moral compromises.  If you think some compromise is absolutely necessary, then I would read that as God's will that you not be married.  Then pray that if it's His will He would remove the obstacle.


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They've done this on purpose, made housing unaffordable for many young people.  But also trust in God.  My brother started in an apartment and his Trad father-in-law was pushing NFP on him.  He refused.  Shortly after they had their second child, a penny stock he had bought took off to where he was able to buy a very nice house for cash.  
Trad father pushing NFP..... For some odd reason, this really grinds my gears, personally.

Also, you'd be surprised how many Catholic women would laugh at the proposition of living in a mobile home.. (unfortunately)

Most women (even Catholic/Trad/ etc.) today are anything but practical and somewhat materialistic.


But yea,  he should def. be asking her early on..

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Trad father pushing NFP..... For some odd reason, this really grinds my gears, personally.

Also, you'd be surprised how many Catholic women would laugh at the proposition of living in a mobile home.. (unfortunately)

Most women (even Catholic/Trad/ etc.) today are anything but practical and somewhat materialistic.


But yea,  he should def. be asking her early on..

Yeah, it did not sit well with my brother, not only because of NFP, but just due to the general principle of "I'm head of my family, so it's none of your business now."

Absolutely, very few even Traditional Catholic women will put up with anything less than what's been painted as the "American Dream" lifestyle with the house in a neighborhood, picket fence, etc. ... and are extremely materialistic.  It's very sad.

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As far as I know, people are traditionally instructed not to "marry down" or "marry up" because this way they won't have to go through unnecessary and sometimes huge difficulties in their marriage. I mean, if you are marrying a rich girl, this will put a huge strain in your relationship right from the start. If she already lives on modest means, she will be much more suited to this lifestyle.

I don't see nothing wrong with a decent and honorable mobile home. Saints are not carved thourgh luxury. But make it very clear what she will have go through before marriage. Talk thoroughly about it, and also make very clear what are your expectations for the future.


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I see nothing wrong or unreasonable about it.  However, make sure you go in with your eyes wide open and check into all of the costs associated with a mobile home.  Also, I assume that you would need a double wide given you are hoping for a large family, and you don't plan to move into a house for at least 10 years.  These are more expensive, of course.  

I agree with the others regarding speaking about this early rather than later on in the relationship.  Just because a woman is Traditional Catholic doesn't mean she would be open to this (at least on a long-term basis).

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This house should be 90k, 120k in a hot market. With standard adjusted inflation. But some boomer lazy dad cant have her princess living here, can he?

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This house should be 90k, 120k in a hot market. With standard adjusted inflation. But some boomer lazy dad cant have her princess living here, can he?


Agreed.  It's totally out of control and was done on purpose.  During the Plandemic Black Rock and Vangard (aka the Jews) were going around buying up nearly all available real estate by offering well over asking, pricing people out of the market and also causing a major supply shortage.

It's part of the agenda, to take away the possibility of home ownership, you know, where we "own nothing and are happy".  We'll all be renters.  And if we think we own anything, once paid off, try not paying the property tax on a paid-off home and see how much you own it, or with the "eminent domain" laws the government can just take your home for whatever reason they deem sufficient.

So when there's a total collapse, they declare "reset" where the government owns everything.  Sure, debt gets wiped out, but so does ownership of anything.  Oh, there's no need for you to own a car.  We'll have the self-driving cars just come pick you up when you need a ride.  Why own a car just to have it sit in a garage 22.5 hours per day out of the 24 when it could be out serving others during those other hours?  Right?  Makes sense actually ... except that it's a control play where now you can't just get in the car when you want to and go where you want, and your access can be cut off whenever you don't comply with the latest government edict, say, the next jab ... or else you say something "not nithe" about the Jews online.  You'll be allowed to stay in your home, but the government will tell you that you must accept some illegal immigrants as "boarders" in the house, since you don't really own it anymore.  Also, jobs will be so few that everyone will be on UBI.  Yeah, you won't have to work, but, again, if you don't comply, no food for you and you starve.

Alex Jones fantasies about black helicopters over every "patriot"'s home or tanks down his street are absurd ... as they simply do not have the logistics.  But when they centralize access to food (big agra, big box retailers, etc.), then they can centralize and control the currency (all digital), and control your income (UBI) ... they can just starve you into submission without a single tank or black helicopter, just using a computer algorithm, and even AI.  That's a large part of what AI is for ... to develop social credit profiles on everyone.  "Yeah, this guy here is an αnтι-ѕємιтє, reduce his UBI by 75% to start.  If he doesn't retract his views, get rid of it entirely."


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Tiny homes are quite popular now.  Lots of influencers promoting them, channels dedicated to how to decorate and organize.  I believe plenty of younger women would be amenable. Frugalcore and living debt free is a trend with GenZ.

I think the key to getting your fiancee's cooperation is to include her very early in the purchasing process and ask her to decorate it.  Let her do some early nesting.

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In my experience, women have no understanding of money. I don't think I've ever known a woman who would live like a student for years in order to save up to have a deposit to buy a home. And when they do earn money it's for them and the family comes second.

Men on the other hand will live on a very budget for years in order to be able to buy a home and when they earn a salary, its for the family, not for them.  

And some women will call men like this cheap. 

If you can find a woman who agrees to live in these conditions with you, then you have found a rare pearl

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If you can find a woman who agrees to live in these conditions with you, then you have found a rare pearl
He truly has if that's her! I hope it is. 

Even one of those modular cheap homes is fine, too. What's wrong with those? better than paying for a crappy overpriced apartment near nons.