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Re: Wife not praying with husband
« Reply #15 on: July 29, 2020, 09:04:47 PM »
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  • Why is she so cold with you?
    Maybe she's unfaithful?


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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #16 on: July 29, 2020, 10:11:21 PM »
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  • Maybe she's unfaithful?
    That's disgusting! Nothing in this thread even hints at that.  Many couples only get to eat one meal together.  My parents were married 60 years and 47 of those years when my father worked they only saw each other on weekends and from 6PM to 4:30 AM during the week.
    As long as my husband worked we only ate one meal together during the week.
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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #17 on: July 29, 2020, 10:24:09 PM »
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  • When you have children a family rosary is admirable and advisable but 2 people, even a couple, are not necessarily on the same spiritual level.  Over the years your spirituality should blend together but the OP doesn't say how long they've been married.
    Some people have longer periods of meditation when they pray.
    I'd advise opening up a calm conversation about this.  Maybe start with praying the rosary together one day a week and let the graces take it from there.
    "Let God arise, and let His enemies be scattered: and them that hate Him flee from before His Holy Face"  Psalm 67:2[/b]


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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #18 on: July 29, 2020, 10:52:24 PM »
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  • When you have a intimate time, cozy up to maybe a decade of the rosary, first.

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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #19 on: July 30, 2020, 05:59:33 AM »
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  • My husband's grandfather used to give these long sermon prayers before dinner. One time he prayed so long that a guest at the table yelled out, "oh come on Bob, let's eat." Do you  take half an hour or longer to pray the rosary?


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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #20 on: August 09, 2020, 04:24:36 PM »
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  • When you have children a family rosary is admirable and advisable but 2 people, even a couple, are not necessarily on the same spiritual level.  Over the years your spirituality should blend together but the OP doesn't say how long they've been married.
    over a decade

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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #21 on: August 09, 2020, 04:24:54 PM »
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  • Maybe she's unfaithful?
    There's no evidence of this.

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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #22 on: August 09, 2020, 10:09:53 PM »
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  • If she is NO and you are traditional? then that may be the reason.  Maybe she is praying for your conversion and you are praying for hers?

    What will break the camels back. Who will win out?  Your prayers are very strong.  Pray for whatever it takes.

    My husband came home after a Sunday Mass that he attended alone and said no more to NO.  What happened I asked.  Two lesbians sat on either side of him in a pew.  That broke the camels back.

    For my friend, it was proof that NO supports abortion in programs of Catholic Charities.  Then there is the pull of possible friends and family that do all they can to hold on to NO friends.  So, for every person there can be a reason to stay NO.  

    For myself, I read Federal grants and proved to myself and those who had an ear to want to know, that all dioceses support abortion, all!  It has been going on for decades. NO serves the Gov't, federal and state.

    So, if this is the case, besides prayer, the devil hates fasting.  One lady we know, fasted from sweets for 4 years and her husband gave up the booze. 


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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #23 on: August 10, 2020, 02:51:00 PM »
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  • My parents were married 60 years and 47 of those years when my father worked they only saw each other on weekends and from 6PM to 4:30 AM during the week.
    Sounds like they had little choice.

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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #24 on: August 10, 2020, 05:25:54 PM »
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  • Have you asked your wife to pray with you? How does she answer?  Get deep and ask again, why?

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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #25 on: August 11, 2020, 09:18:54 AM »
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  • eat one meal a day togetherno
    What kind of a marriage is this????
    You do nothing together but eat one meal together?
    No wonder you don't have children after a decade.
    You two need counseling.


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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #26 on: August 12, 2020, 03:23:09 PM »
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  • Have you asked your wife to pray with you?
    yes
    How does she answer?
    nothing that makes sense

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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #27 on: August 12, 2020, 04:31:07 PM »
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  • For some people there's a huge drop off when the pomp and fantasy of being with someone romantically 24/7 wears out. Sounds like the OP's spouse has that in spades plus a large backload of resentment as a result. It's impossible to say how much of his wife's current condition is attributable to the husband, but at this point it sounds like he's long past connecting over anything but daily routine. That's really tough! Her resentment might have even hardened into scathing hatred by the sounds of it. Then again, the OP must know this. In fact this entire thread may be an excuse to meditate on how much he ought to resent her in return. "Nothing that makes sense" says to me he already knows, he's just looking for validation.

    But I could definitely be wrong on that.

    It may be that a genuinely clueless guy is just figuring out the depths of his wife's animosity towards him. He has my sympathy if that is the case. In addition to examining where he himself may have helped cause the rift, it will be extremely useful to examine the wife's outside interests, coworkers, friends and family for signs of potential malignant influences. However she got to this point, brace yourself OP because it may take all your resources and wits as a man to pull her out of it while keeping your faith in the process.
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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #28 on: August 12, 2020, 05:08:45 PM »
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  • For some people there's a huge drop off when the pomp and fantasy of being with someone romantically 24/7 wears out. Sounds like the OP's spouse has that in spades plus a large backload of resentment as a result. It's impossible to say how much of his wife's current condition is attributable to the husband, but at this point it sounds like he's long past connecting over anything but daily routine. That's really tough! Her resentment might have even hardened into scathing hatred by the sounds of it. Then again, the OP must know this. In fact this entire thread may be an excuse to meditate on how much he ought to resent her in return. "Nothing that makes sense" says to me he already knows, he's just looking for validation.

    But I could definitely be wrong on that.

    It may be that a genuinely clueless guy is just figuring out the depths of his wife's animosity towards him. He has my sympathy if that is the case. In addition to examining where he himself may have helped cause the rift, it will be extremely useful to examine the wife's outside interests, coworkers, friends and family for signs of potential malignant influences. However she got to this point, brace yourself OP because it may take all your resources and wits as a man to pull her out of it while keeping your faith in the process.
    A decade marriage and he doesn't know why he has trouble in his marriage?  I am not buying it.
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    Maybe it's the fact that they have no children after a decade that she has resentment.
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    He knows...
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    And he has much bigger problems than his wife not praying with him.

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    Re: Wife not praying with husband
    « Reply #29 on: August 13, 2020, 02:12:56 AM »
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  • Why are you childless after such a period of time? Do you / your wife have a problem with fertility, or are children being thwarted?

    Do you / your wife want children?
    Help of Christians, guard our land from assault or inward stain,
    Let it be what God has planned, His new Eden where You reign.