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Traditional Catholic Faith => Anσnymσus Posts Allowed => Topic started by: Änσnymσus on July 01, 2025, 02:55:22 PM
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So my family has known this married couple, let's call them Husband and Wife, for 15 years. Recently, Husband went away on a business trip for 2 weeks. Wife goes to take a bath, turns the tap on and leaves the bathroom to go do something. Completely forgets about the running tap, and the bathroom is completely flooded. She told my family this over coffee, while Husband was still gone. So when Husband gets back, I ask him how his floor is holding up. He had no idea what I was talking about. I had assumed that Wife had told Husband about her accident. But she hadn't. And this isn't the first time it's happened. My mother got mad at me, and said that I shouldn't have said anything about the floor. If I had been Wife, and flooded the bathroom due to my own carelessness, I would immediately tell my husband, because I'd want him to help me not be so careless in the future. I'd look at it as I would any other confession: the act of confessing would be a deterrent in the future. Was I in the wrong here?
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Seems like that would be a good thing to know about. Plus, it doesn't sound like she told you not to say anything so you were merely bringing up current events.
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You didn’t do anything wrong.
I’d want to tell my husband. He’s the one that is responsible for maintaining the house as far as repairs and structural issues, etc. He has a right to know about something like that. I’d be worried about mold issues popping up and he would know better than I how to prevent/remedy that. Sure I’d get a lecture, but I would deserve that. :jester: I am one of the most forgetful people.
Also, is it the norm for wives not to tell their husbands about something like this? Seems odd that she and your mom would assume you weren’t suppose to tell. That could have lasting consequences on the house!
Who knows why she didn’t tell. Maybe she’s scared of getting yelled at?
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;) This has to be the same wife who defrosts meat on the floor!
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;) This has to be the same wife who defrosts meat on the floor!
This definitely crossed my mind! :jester:
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This definitely crossed my mind! :jester:
Lol OP here. I swear this is a different couple!
You didn’t do anything wrong.
I’d want to tell my husband. He’s the one that is responsible for maintaining the house as far as repairs and structural issues, etc. He has a right to know about something like that. I’d be worried about mold issues popping up and he would know better than I how to prevent/remedy that. Sure I’d get a lecture, but I would deserve that. :jester: I am one of the most forgetful people.
Also, is it the norm for wives not to tell their husbands about something like this? Seems odd that she and your mom would assume you weren’t suppose to tell. That could have lasting consequences on the house!
Who knows why she didn’t tell. Maybe she’s scared of getting yelled at?
IKR? That part really surprised me. I feel bad, but I can't understand why she didn't just tell him. I would think he'd be more upset that she didn't tell him, than that she flooded the bathroom.
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I am surprised that the bath didn't have an overfill drain. I've never seen a bath without one--except in very old homes. And those baths had legs.
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So my family has known this married couple, let's call them Husband and Wife, for 15 years. Recently, Husband went away on a business trip for 2 weeks. Wife goes to take a bath, turns the tap on and leaves the bathroom to go do something. Completely forgets about the running tap, and the bathroom is completely flooded. She told my family this over coffee, while Husband was still gone. So when Husband gets back, I ask him how his floor is holding up. He had no idea what I was talking about. I had assumed that Wife had told Husband about her accident. But she hadn't. And this isn't the first time it's happened. My mother got mad at me, and said that I shouldn't have said anything about the floor. If I had been Wife, and flooded the bathroom due to my own carelessness, I would immediately tell my husband, because I'd want him to help me not be so careless in the future. I'd look at it as I would any other confession: the act of confessing would be a deterrent in the future. Was I in the wrong here?
Another example of a female avoiding accountability.
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I think things that need to be known find a way of coming out.
The Op did nothing wrong.
People should just be honest. I tell on myself all the time. I discovered a long time ago that if you hide things the consequences are worse.
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So my family has known this married couple, let's call them Husband and Wife, for 15 years. Recently, Husband went away on a business trip for 2 weeks. Wife goes to take a bath, turns the tap on and leaves the bathroom to go do something. Completely forgets about the running tap, and the bathroom is completely flooded. She told my family this over coffee, while Husband was still gone. So when Husband gets back, I ask him how his floor is holding up. He had no idea what I was talking about. I had assumed that Wife had told Husband about her accident. But she hadn't. And this isn't the first time it's happened. My mother got mad at me, and said that I shouldn't have said anything about the floor. If I had been Wife, and flooded the bathroom due to my own carelessness, I would immediately tell my husband, because I'd want him to help me not be so careless in the future. I'd look at it as I would any other confession: the act of confessing would be a deterrent in the future. Was I in the wrong here?
It's really bad if the wife doesn't tell her husband things. It shows a lack of trust and respect.
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It's really bad if the wife doesn't tell her husband things. It shows a lack of trust and respect.
Not to forget that the husband is the head of the household and God's authority in the family.
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I am surprised that the bath didn't have an overfill drain. I've never seen a bath without one--except in very old homes. And those baths had legs.
The overfill drains are often insufficient to counteract a completely open faucet; i.e., the water is coming into the tub faster than it can go out. That this happened more than once is borderline unbelievable, as is trying to hide it from anyone. May God grant her some sense and humility and grant him a lot of money and even more patience.
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Was this wife also thawing meat on the floor?
ah, I see others beat me to it
In any case .. as others have said, you did nothing wrong.
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It doesn’t sound so bad.
Sop up the water with a heavy towel. Wring the water into a large pot. Scoop up the spilled beans and dump them into the pot.
Cover with a lid or towel overnight.
In the morning, drain the water. Place the beans into a colander and rinse well. In a bowl, place enough water to generously cover the beans. Mix in tomato sauce, ketchup, or purée, molasses, sugar, brown sugar, honey, or maple syrup to taste, add salt, pepper, cinnamon, all-spice, nutmeg to taste. Add in a blob of butter, lard, margarine, or bacon grease. Mix well. Place beans in crock pot, slow cooker, Dutch oven or in cast iron kettle. Pour mixture over top of beans. Add enough water to settle at least 1” over the beans. Do NOT stir. Place strips of bacon or chunks of ham, sausage, hotdog chunks, strips of salami or bologna, salt pork on top. Cover with heavy lid. Simmer several hours or even overnight in a coal pit until beans are extremely tender. (Should mash easily with a fork.)
*Omit bacon and meat products for vegetarian baked beans. One well-beaten egg or a blob of peanut butter, (really, Trust me on this one.), two blobs of mayonnaise, well dissolved corn starch, a little crushed or powdered garlic can add flavor, body, and protein in place of meat.
Serve steaming hot from the cooking pot into bowls or plates with a ladle. A simple side salad, and serving over toast or saltine crackers makes a simple, delicious, and filling meal. 🥄 😋
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Was this wife also thawing meat on the floor?
ah, I see others beat me to it
In any case .. as others have said, you did nothing wrong.
This couldn't be the same wife... The thawing meat wife and her husband had only been married for a short time and recently had their 1st baby.
The OP of this thread said, "my family has known this married couple, let's call them Husband and Wife, for 15 years."
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So my family has known this married couple, let's call them Husband and Wife, for 15 years. Recently, Husband went away on a business trip for 2 weeks. Wife goes to take a bath, turns the tap on and leaves the bathroom to go do something. Completely forgets about the running tap, and the bathroom is completely flooded. She told my family this over coffee, while Husband was still gone. So when Husband gets back, I ask him how his floor is holding up. He had no idea what I was talking about. I had assumed that Wife had told Husband about her accident. But she hadn't. And this isn't the first time it's happened. My mother got mad at me, and said that I shouldn't have said anything about the floor. If I had been Wife, and flooded the bathroom due to my own carelessness, I would immediately tell my husband, because I'd want him to help me not be so careless in the future. I'd look at it as I would any other confession: the act of confessing would be a deterrent in the future. Was I in the wrong here?
Unless they told you not to say something and told you in confidence I don't think you did anything wrong.
And the wife really should have told her husband if it was a bad case of flooding... I am reminded of an episode in the "Leave it to Beaver" show where this happened to the 2 boys while their parents were gone. They thought that they had gotten away with it until the floor/ceiling collapsed when their parents came home. :fryingpan:
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It could mean that there is an agreement between the husband and the wife and she is equipped to handle these household events without involving her spouse.