Is your wife a Catholic or a Traditional Catholic?

It's not. This is someone else. It's just the reality of marriage today.

There is a reason that more than 50% of marriages end in divorce in modern times. These aren't just made up statistics. And being a traditional Catholic doesn't mean you will be fully protected from divorce. The woman can divorce or separate from you and the government and society will support her.

Looks like you’ve answered your own question. Let her civilly divorce you. Support your kids if you have them. Otherwise, dedicate your life to the service of God. 

Looks like you’ve answered your own question. Let her civilly divorce you. Support your kids if you have them. Otherwise, dedicate your life to the service of God.

Quote from: Änσnymσus 7/5/2025, 10:04:25 AM
What is the question?

Suggesting divorce is sinful. You should watch what you type more carefully.

The question asked by the OP was, after his wife filed for divorce should he change the locks.  Hopefully there could be a reconciliation, but if the wife persists in perusing a divorce there isn't much the husband can do to stop it.  What he can do is fight for full custody of any children (an unknown) so that they will be raised in the faith, support and maintain contact with them in the case of joint or no custody.  Which is why some advised the OP to consult a good attorney to help preserve his rights as the father.  Who suggested divorce?  No one that I can see.  

In the few cases I know of, the wife probably wouldn't have divorced and lost the faith if the husband truly had the traditional Catholic faith, and strove to make that the order of both their lives. Being raised and living in the modern world, and being so distant from other Catholics, who really, really want to be the saints they ought to be, leaves most "traditional Catholics" hardly knowing what it really means to be Catholic, and so they deceive themselves, and are shocked when their spouse leaves or their children loose the faith.

I have seen this, too.  It is a very sad state of affairs.  Or they stay together but it is a very joyless marriage.

Sometimes I have guilt because I was blessed with a husband, who made sure our religious life as a family was in order.  If the husband puts God first and the wife is docile, then so much love of God flows through the family.

No.  You shouldn’t change locks.   

You should give more, but not necessary all, information. We're here for you as your fellow Trads.

I'm the OP.
Some bad, Neo-SSPX priests suggested divorce to her. At least one is pushing for annulment, and divorce is required for annulment, but the marriage is clearly valid, and consummated.
There are some similarities tobut there are no children involved.

Did the priest even talk to you?