You need to hire an attorney immediately and do what he says. 

You have to be trolling 

Be prepared for false allegations in court. Maybe hire a female attorney since she might fight better in court. I recall a divorce case where the stay at home wife lived at home with the husband. She was the one who filed for divorce. And the judge granted her request to kick the husband out of the home (because he was making her uncomfortable, etc.). He argued that the home had his home office but the judge didn't care. 

What's with all the "MY WIFE IS A CRAZY WENCH" posts in the last year. 

This is so sad, if it is true.

This poster is trolling. It must be the sugar fellow.

How? You seem like you live under a rock.

I also was sued for divorce.  I prevailed because I acted quickly.  You need an attorney NOW.  Having navigated the family courts I agree that you will fare better with a female attorney.  I would select an aggressive one if possible.  Try to get one who is rich because that will indicate her success.  You are at a great disadvantage because she knew about the divorce the VERY FIRST DAY SHE THREATENED IT.  

Understand the lawsuit will be primarily about CONTROL--control of your children and your money....therefore control of YOU.  She has assembled a cohort of supporters, family and friends.  She has been smearing you for months or years so don't even go to those people.  She may have smeared you to your family as well.  It happened to me.  

Don't make my mistake and say that you want to reconcile.  You will look like a crazy loser to the judge.  Don't have relations with her until after she dismisses the lawsuit because she may try to trick you into getting her pregnant or accuse you of rape.  You keep praying for reconciliation but let her be the one to initiate it by withdrawing the divorce.  Do everything you lawyer tells you or you will lose everything. Don't move out unless the judge orders you to. Don't talk to your wife.  She may be recording conversations. Don't delete messages.   Turn everything over to your lawyer.  Start praying the rosary everyday if you don't already.  You are going to need supernatural help to survive this.