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Traditional Catholic Faith => Anσnymσus Posts Allowed => Topic started by: Änσnymσus on July 04, 2025, 01:39:42 PM
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Wife filed for civil divorce. Some people have advised me to change the locks on my house. Should I, or should I be forgiving and welcoming?
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You need to hire an attorney immediately and do what he says.
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You need to hire an attorney immediately and do what he says.
This doesn't answer the question.
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You have to be trolling
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This doesn't answer the question.
The reply to consult an attorney precisely ANSWERS the question. Only a qualified family law attorney can provide you with good and valid counsel regarding the most appropriate immediate action you should take, both to preserve your rights and to not shut the door against hopefully a reconciliation.
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Be prepared for false allegations in court. Maybe hire a female attorney since she might fight better in court. I recall a divorce case where the stay at home wife lived at home with the husband. She was the one who filed for divorce. And the judge granted her request to kick the husband out of the home (because he was making her uncomfortable, etc.). He argued that the home had his home office but the judge didn't care.
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How long were you married?
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What's with all the "MY WIFE IS A CRAZY WENCH" posts in the last year.
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This poster is trolling. It must be the sugar fellow.
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This is so sad, if it is true.
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Wife filed for civil divorce. Some people have advised me to change the locks on my house. Should I, or should I be forgiving and welcoming?
If you're serious, and not just trolling, you need advice from a trustworthy person that knows not just the Faith, but also knows both you and your wife well.
See, we only get to go by what scraps of info you choose to give us, we don't get a full enough picture to give solid advice. One would hope that your marriage, not to mention your life, is important enough to you that you would look for real help.
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This poster is trolling. It must be the sugar fellow.
How? You seem like you live under a rock.
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Is this the purported "wife" who thaws meat on the floor?
Um. Yeah. Right.
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I also was sued for divorce. I prevailed because I acted quickly. You need an attorney NOW. Having navigated the family courts I agree that you will fare better with a female attorney. I would select an aggressive one if possible. Try to get one who is rich because that will indicate her success. You are at a great disadvantage because she knew about the divorce the VERY FIRST DAY SHE THREATENED IT.
Understand the lawsuit will be primarily about CONTROL--control of your children and your money....therefore control of YOU. She has assembled a cohort of supporters, family and friends. She has been smearing you for months or years so don't even go to those people. She may have smeared you to your family as well. It happened to me.
Don't make my mistake and say that you want to reconcile. You will look like a crazy loser to the judge. Don't have relations with her until after she dismisses the lawsuit because she may try to trick you into getting her pregnant or accuse you of rape. You keep praying for reconciliation but let her be the one to initiate it by withdrawing the divorce. Do everything you lawyer tells you or you will lose everything. Don't move out unless the judge orders you to. Don't talk to your wife. She may be recording conversations. Don't delete messages. Turn everything over to your lawyer. Start praying the rosary everyday if you don't already. You are going to need supernatural help to survive this.
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Does she think she can do better, especially as a single mom, if you have kids? Does she have another man waiting for her? If she gets 100% custody, you're screwed. That plus child support and alimony. Did she already serve you the papers?
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Start praying the rosary everyday if you don't already. You are going to need supernatural help to survive this.
And all 15 decades at that. It's not hard, just 45min to an hour. Put a serious effort into the meditation during each decade. The Rosary Warfare book can help.
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Is your wife a Catholic or a Traditional Catholic?
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Is this the purported "wife" who thaws meat on the floor?
Um. Yeah. Right.
It's not. This is someone else. It's just the reality of marriage today.
There is a reason that more than 50% of marriages end in divorce in modern times. These aren't just made up statistics. And being a traditional Catholic doesn't mean you will be fully protected from divorce. The woman can divorce or separate from you and the government and society will support her.
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It's not. This is someone else. It's just the reality of marriage today.
There is a reason that more than 50% of marriages end in divorce in modern times. These aren't just made up statistics. And being a traditional Catholic doesn't mean you will be fully protected from divorce. The woman can divorce or separate from you and the government and society will support her.
Looks like you’ve answered your own question. Let her civilly divorce you. Support your kids if you have them. Otherwise, dedicate your life to the service of God.
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Looks like you’ve answered your own question. Let her civilly divorce you. Support your kids if you have them. Otherwise, dedicate your life to the service of God.
What is the question?
Suggesting divorce is sinful. You should watch what you type more carefully.
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Looks like you’ve answered your own question. Let her civilly divorce you. Support your kids if you have them. Otherwise, dedicate your life to the service of God.
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Quote from: Änσnymσus (https://www.cathinfo.com/index.php?topic=77372.msg991790#msg991790) 7/5/2025, 10:04:25 AM
What is the question?
Suggesting divorce is sinful. You should watch what you type more carefully.
The question asked by the OP was, after his wife filed for divorce should he change the locks. Hopefully there could be a reconciliation, but if the wife persists in perusing a divorce there isn't much the husband can do to stop it. What he can do is fight for full custody of any children (an unknown) so that they will be raised in the faith, support and maintain contact with them in the case of joint or no custody. Which is why some advised the OP to consult a good attorney to help preserve his rights as the father. Who suggested divorce? No one that I can see.
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Is your wife a Catholic or a Traditional Catholic?
In the few cases I know of, the wife probably wouldn't have divorced and lost the faith if the husband truly had the traditional Catholic faith, and strove to make that the order of both their lives. Being raised and living in the modern world, and being so distant from other Catholics, who really, really want to be the saints they ought to be, leaves most "traditional Catholics" hardly knowing what it really means to be Catholic, and so they deceive themselves, and are shocked when their spouse leaves or their children loose the faith.
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In the few cases I know of, the wife probably wouldn't have divorced and lost the faith if the husband truly had the traditional Catholic faith, and strove to make that the order of both their lives. Being raised and living in the modern world, and being so distant from other Catholics, who really, really want to be the saints they ought to be, leaves most "traditional Catholics" hardly knowing what it really means to be Catholic, and so they deceive themselves, and are shocked when their spouse leaves or their children loose the faith.
I have seen this, too. It is a very sad state of affairs. Or they stay together but it is a very joyless marriage.
Sometimes I have guilt because I was blessed with a husband, who made sure our religious life as a family was in order. If the husband puts God first and the wife is docile, then so much love of God flows through the family.
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Wife filed for civil divorce. Some people have advised me to change the locks on my house. Should I, or should I be forgiving and welcoming?
:pray: :pray::pray:
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No. You shouldn’t change locks.
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And keep praying. No new woman if divorce goes through.
It is all for God.
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You should give more, but not necessary all, information. We're here for you as your fellow Trads.
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Suggesting divorce is sinful.
I'm the OP.
Some bad, Neo-SSPX priests suggested divorce to her. At least one is pushing for annulment, and divorce is required for annulment, but the marriage is clearly valid, and consummated.
There are some similarities toSSPX Sued for Fraud, Breaking up Family: Read the Lawsuit
but there are no children involved.
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I'm the OP.
Some bad, Neo-SSPX priests suggested divorce to her. At least one is pushing for annulment, and divorce is required for annulment, but the marriage is clearly valid, and consummated.
There are some similarities tobut there are no children involved.
Did the priest even talk to you?
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I'm the OP.
Some bad, Neo-SSPX priests suggested divorce to her. At least one is pushing for annulment, and divorce is required for annulment, but the marriage is clearly valid, and consummated.
There are some similarities tobut there are no children involved.
I'm sorry that you are going through this. It's a difficult cross to bear. :pray:
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I'm the OP.
Some bad, Neo-SSPX priests suggested divorce to her. At least one is pushing for annulment, and divorce is required for annulment, but the marriage is clearly valid, and consummated.
There are some similarities tobut there are no children involved.
How awful! Prayers for you and your wife. 😣🙏
Under what grounds did the SSPX priest push for an annulment and the marriage being invalid?
How long have you and your wife been married?
Thanks be to God that you have no children yet... That would make her filing for a divorce SO MUCH worse for the sake of the children...