She is. She acts like a child. I get up at night every few hours to take care of the baby. She gets her sleep. Then when she gets up earlier in the morning she eats and drinks in bed right next to me while I'm trying to sleep for another few hours. I ask her politely to eat in the other room and then she argues with me why she should be able to do that.

I am sorry she is like this.  She sounds horrible.

Does she have any good qualities?  

Yes of course. She is not horrible. I'm ranting.

Well say some nice things then.  It is not very good to let us all think poorly of your wife.

She is. She acts like a child. I get up at night every few hours to take care of the baby. She gets her sleep. Then when she gets up earlier in the morning she eats and drinks in bed right next to me while I'm trying to sleep for another few hours. I ask her politely to eat in the other room and then she argues with me why she should be able to do that.

I’m sorry you’re married to an extremely selfish person.  

That sounds about right.  My wife was born and raised in Poland, and while the question of defrosting meat never came up, there were tons of little differences that would emerge.  She thought it was perfectly all right to leave pans of cooked food covered on the stove overnight, and/or to put the cooled-down pans directly in the refrigerator without emptying the contents into another container.  That may have just been her family upbringing as opposed to Poles in general.  One time her father had put my bottle of buttermilk out on the counter overnight because he didn't see it as something needing refrigeration, and they had a smallish European-style refrigerator with limited storage space.

While buttermilk needs to go in the fridge, the former two seemed completely normal to me though I think putting the cookware straight in is a bit lazy. No wonder why my american friend keep asking me if certain food is still good to eat after cooked and being out for a couple hours. Was the US a country before they invented refrigerator?

While buttermilk needs to go in the fridge, the former two seemed completely normal to me though I think putting the cookware straight in is a bit lazy. No wonder why my american friend keep asking me if certain food is still good to eat after cooked and being out for a couple hours. Was the US a country before they invented refrigerator?

It's mostly people in the South. Up North it's cold and people dont need to worry so much about keeping food out. My dad is from the north and they left food out overnight. In the South there are tons of bugs and it's hot. You leave food out overnight and the food will spoil and roaches.

Heard of baby brain? Scripture says Husbands should be Patient.

Proverbs 15:1 – A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.

I don't see how being extremely selfish or manic about cleanliness can be fixed by a doctor. Would she behave the same if her husband was someone powerful? It's hard to imagine the wife of Julius Caesar getting away with such behavior.

With God's help I'm sure it's fixable as you cannot have your children grow up and see their father treated with such disrespect.

Julius Caesar and his wife had slaves. They lived in a patriarchal society. We live in a feminist society.

Part of the problem is cultural differences, but still, there are civil ways to react those differences.

Yes, it's not good for the children and I suspect many families today have the same issue to one degree or another.

Is it helping?

Serious question, BTW, not just being a jerk.

Good question.  At this point, I don't know that any of us here can really help the OP.  At this point, when does complaining about your wife on the internet become a serious sin.  Although we want to help him, at some level it has become an anonymous gossiping session where we only get one side of the story.  This would be equally true if a wife were to do the same thing about her husband. 

There does seem to be an OCD issue here on the part of the wife, but I'm beginning to think there is also a much larger marital issue here.  Since the OP's wife is not open to meeting with a priest, the OP and his wife need to get professional help.  Stat.