You need to put your foot down with her. She thinks she can be manipulative and there won’t be consequences.

I am sorry.  Statements like this bother me.  We do not know what she thinks. 

She seems to have a mental illness which has been exacerbated by having a baby.  They really need to find some local help that is specific to their needs. 

If she is trying to bolt with her threats, then being forceful might make her actually run.  I am sorry the OP is in this situation. 

We need to pray that God sends them the best help for their particular situation, so that the family stays intact. 

OP you got this, you know your wife best, please act accordingly.

I saw that you said she wasn’t like this before you got married. Did this kind of behavior start before pregnancy or during or after? Sorry if I missed it.
I’m just wondering because sometimes when horomones are out of whack or there are nutritional deficiencies a woman can be a whole different person.
When I am deficient or am having a hard time balancing horomones, internal rage and irrational thoughts are prevalent. I have to constantly work to control it with my will. When I am well balanced I do not have this problem at all. Post partum is the absolute worst time for it. I might suggest asking her what she is taking for supplements and look into what kind of nutrition she is getting.
I would start off with these gentle measures. It might fix it all. I’d be happy to recommend some supplements.  I agree with some marital counseling from a trusted priest after that. If she really is just this obstinate, I am very sorry. If she is going to leave you over thawing food on the floor, she will do it with everything else. I’d start docuмenting everything. Write down the weird things. I agree with FarmerWife, you should put your foot down. She will either respect your authority or ship out, but if it ends in a battle for the baby, you will have plenty of docuмentation to say she isn’t of sound mind. Im sorry to be forward, but it’s best to be prepared.

This ^^^

If what the OP says is true, and she's a feminist mess, it's best the kid stay with him only if she leaves. That would be better for the child in the long run.

But she might take the baby and run and the laws are in her favor.

I saw that you said she wasn’t like this before you got married. Did this kind of behavior start before pregnancy or during or after? Sorry if I missed it.
I’m just wondering because sometimes when horomones are out of whack or there are nutritional deficiencies a woman can be a whole different person.
When I am deficient or am having a hard time balancing horomones, internal rage and irrational thoughts are prevalent. I have to constantly work to control it with my will. When I am well balanced I do not have this problem at all. Post partum is the absolute worst time for it. I might suggest asking her what she is taking for supplements and look into what kind of nutrition she is getting.
I would start off with these gentle measures. It might fix it all. I’d be happy to recommend some supplements.  I agree with some marital counseling from a trusted priest after that. If she really is just this obstinate, I am very sorry. If she is going to leave you over thawing food on the floor, she will do it with everything else. I’d start docuмenting everything. Write down the weird things. I agree with FarmerWife, you should put your foot down. She will either respect your authority or ship out, but if it ends in a battle for the baby, you will have plenty of docuмentation to say she isn’t of sound mind. Im sorry to be forward, but it’s best to be prepared.

To be clear, when I say put your foot down, I mean if you don’t see it fit to bend to her irrational demands (like washing your feet before you get into bed), don’t. It will only encourage her to make more demands.  She is not the boss of you! In order for her to respect you, she needs to know you will not be walked all over. 
I am definately NOT advocating for anything physical. At all. 

I’m a woman and I know how we can be. Sometimes we just need a reality check on how our actions are negatively impacting those around us. Her saying she wants to separate is already going too far and that’s what she thinks.

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It never fails, that if someone on CI is seeking marital advice, there's a cadre of single guys telling him he just needs to man up and put his foot down. 

Your wife doesn't respect your authority? Well, man, you just need to authoritize harder.

What a bunch of retards lol.

First off, we don't have enough information to give you genuinely helpful advice. This is a HUGE adjustment period: you're newlyweds. You have a newborn. Your wife is an immigrant. And apparently she has a secular background to boot. And you've been married less than a year, so we don't even know how much of these problems are hormonal (post-partum personality changes can be extremely difficult, although they are temporary if managed correctly).

Second, if the fundamental problem is that your wife is strongly animated by feminism then I guarantee you the "authoritize harder" approach will only affirm all of her feminist dispositions. It will make her less happy and more distrustful of you. The level of anger, anxiety, and resentment in your home will increase, not decrease. And it will increase proportionate to the intensity with which you authoritize harder.

Third, it is the business of a husband and father to lead his family so that they can flourish.  Authority is a means to that end, not an end in itself. What you want, or what you should want, is for you and your wife to have a strong, holy, and happy relationship. So that your home is filled with love and your children have a good marital example modelled before them. That is a longterm project, and it's also a moving target to some degree. Navigating it correctly and effectively has almost nothing to do with your God given authority, but much more to do with your ability to manage a relationship, to inspire others trust, to reward proper behavior, and so forth. 

All im seeing is her being okay with defrosting meat on the floor. It's just too odd/gross to me.

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You need to get marriage counseling from your priest as soon as possible. This behavior is mortally sinful, and he needs to tell her that.

Unfortunately, your belief that she rejects Vatican 2 is probably another deception on her part. Her behavior is that of a modernist, not of someone who believes in the Catholic Faith.

This is a very common syndrome, that people are raised in the new church and adopts its religion, and somewhere down the line they think they became traditional Catholic because they begin attending a trad chapel. They usually do reject the Novus Ordo, and accept the traditional Mass, but they retain the faith and morals of modernism, not Catholicism.

This manifests itself differently with men and women. With men, they usually just don't go to church, despite claiming to be traditional Catholic, and don't practice much religion at all. With women, it typically manifests itself in their rejection of Catholic teachings on marriage. They believe they can walk out on their marriage (as in the case of your wife), they don't believe they have to obey their husband, they don't believe in the marriage debt, and sometimes they even accept contraception.

In both cases, the problem is the lack of acceptance of belief in Church teaching. So, when a priest warns them that their behavior is contrary to faith and morals, they believe they can simply reject his words like they would disagree with someone who calling into a sports talk radio program who says something about their team's quarterback that they think is inaccurate. They do not believe they must accept the Church's teachings on faith and morals, and thus they are not Catholics.

Proof of this usually is that these people believe they can still receive the sacraments despite rejecting the priest's warnings, which shows a lack of belief in Church teaching and making themselves their own rule of faith, which is the very definition of modernism.

Your wife is probably one of those types, but the sooner you get your priest involved, the sooner the situation can be troubleshooted and the damage can be minimized.

I brought up talking to a priest together and she refused saying that he wouldn't know anything about marriage... She said if we were to get counseling it would have to be a woman...