If I was to put the meat in the sink she would have a meltdown and would start threatening me with separation. It has happened many times. Plus i can't afford to start any fights with her today. Need to get my son's citizenship and passport squared away tomorrow and she needs to be there with me. She has already threatened she wouldn't go the other day because we were arguing. That's how she rolls. Serious threats if she doesn't get her way. Most men would walk away. Cant do that. I have a son now.

How old is the son?  Does she have some Catholic friends maybe an older women that she can learn from?  Your marriage is gonna be very difficult if she is already threatening to leave over little things like thawing meat on the floor vs on a counter.  Many prayers for you as well.

How old is the son?  Does she have some Catholic friends maybe an older women that she can learn from?  Your marriage is gonna be very difficult if she is already threatening to leave over little things like thawing meat on the floor vs on a counter.  Many prayers for you as well.

4 weeks old. Yes, she has a few Catholic friends.

She is also probably cleaning your floors regularly.  I bet your floors are cleaner than most! 

Despite the Eastern Europe differences, she definitely sounds like she has OCD.  Does this manifest in other ways as well?  Also, is there anyone who can speak with her to help her see that she probably needs to get some (professional) help with this (especially since it is affecting the marriage)?  In addition, if this hasn't already reared its ugly head in the rearing of your son, I wouldn't be surprised if it does.

She does. She cleans pretty much everyday. She doesn't believe in brooms or mops, or swiffers. We have roomba she runs every once in awhile. She cleans the floor with a wet paper towel going back and fourth. The floors are white so that makes it much worse.

Anything from the outside that comes inside must be cleaned. Certain areas of the home are designated for dirty items that haven't been cleaned or cannot be cleaned. It's not just rules for her, but also for me. If I touch something that is considered dirty, I must wash my hands. If dont and then say, use the restroom, then she will go ballistic because she will have to clean everything I touched. The door handles, the toilet, etc. If I touch the floor with bare feet, I must wash the feet or else I cant lay on the bed. If i go outside and come back inside, I can't touch anything until I wash my hands. Then i must take a shower. Now when we are outside its a different story. No clean rules apply. Its like a double life.

She does. She cleans pretty much everyday. She doesn't believe in brooms or mops, or swiffers. We have roomba she runs every once in awhile. She cleans the floor with a wet paper towel going back and fourth. The floors are white so that makes it much worse.

Anything from the outside that comes inside must be cleaned. Certain areas of the home are designated for dirty items that haven't been cleaned or cannot be cleaned. It's not just rules for her, but also for me. If I touch something that is considered dirty, I must wash my hands. If dont and then say, use the restroom, then she will go ballistic because she will have to clean everything I touched. The door handles, the toilet, etc. If I touch the floor with bare feet, I must wash the feet or else I cant lay on the bed. If i go outside and come back inside, I can't touch anything until I wash my hands. Then i must take a shower. Now when we are outside its a different story. No clean rules apply. Its like a double life.

Did you know all of this before you were married?

Nope.

That doesn't surprise me if she didn't live by herself/acts completely different outside of the home.

I hope outsiders aren't looking at our forum and see this thread...........

No wonder.... 

She did live by herself.

Did you ever visit her at her house/apartment?  It seems to me that she would have shown some signs there.  This didn't just crop up after marriage.