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For what it's worth...

I am not a scientist, but I think it is true that it is the man who decides the sex of the child (providing the X or Y chromosome which decides such things).

My husband has a theory that whether or not you have boys or girls is determined by the nature of the man. A man who is not as determined will tend to have girls but one who is very determined will tend to father sons. But the balance between husband and wife also comes in as a factor. If the wife is the person who makes the decisions then she is the stronger.

My husband is a hard man, very strong and determined. We had two boys, then my husband decided to work on himself because he wanted a girl. After some pretty hard work on himself, along came our girl.

Anyway I pray that you can accept the will of God joyfully and shun those negatives.

I had never heard of that.

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Since I was little, I always dreamt of having a big family with lots of boys. An only child myself, I was raised solely by my mother, without a father, and never had any male guidance or presence which left me with a big void for the male component within a home. I think that is why I wanted to have boys so much. I was not neutral.

Instead, God thinks that I am best mothering girls maybe because I am actually a very feminine woman myself and has been giving me daughters. I only have one son. I just found out I am having another girl among 4! It is hard for me to understand God's will in this respect and my Faith is being heavily tested on this respect. This is probably not my last baby as I am still young but it seems there is a pattern there, so probably the next time, it will be another daughter.

I am feeling very ashamed and guilty over these feelings because it feels that I am putting my will over that of God.

Any thoughts?

 

So you're saying that you will end up with 1 boy and 3 girls? So if this last one had been a boy, you'd have been at a perfect 50/50. You are only "off" by one child. That isn't bad odds.

When trying to have your family "balanced" it can be difficult, since having just one child the "less desirable" gender A) takes away from the gender you wanted to add to and B) adds to the OTHER gender that you didn't want more of -- so it's a double whammy.

We have 1 boy and 5 girls. And the boy was first, too! Now THAT is a lopsided mix!

In response to the person who talked about "determination", etc. I have to disagree. If that were true, we'd have 6 boys.

I can think of many other examples as well.