Dear fellow members, what do I do with a friend like this?
I have a friend whom I've known for around 17 years. The last 8 years of our friendship, this friend has kept coming to me for money when he has been in a financial difficulty. Over the years, I would say that I have given him around $15,000 (and I say "given" because I knew he would never be able to pay me back so it was just given). Well, over 2 years ago, I got sick and tired of being his personal bank, so to speak. I told him to stop coming me for money. That I was not a bank he could go to every time a financial emergency came up. But he kept coming to me for money when he was in need and, out of pity, I would succuмb to giving him the money to help him in his emergency (after, of course, yelling at him and telling him that I was fed up of always giving him money).
I even stopped talking to my friend for a year once because of the money issue. A couple of years ago, after repeatedly telling him not to ever ask me for money again, I succuмbed to giving him money in a monetary emergency of his - but this time, lending him the money (not giving) on the condition that he had 2 weeks to pay me back (as he promised). I told him if he did not pay me back the money, then I would not talk to him until he did. Well, he never was able to hold up to his promise (that is why I never lent him money all these years but just gave it to him) and I did not talk to him for a year. After a year, when he still did not pay me back a penny, I just gave up and went back talking to him again (since the year of my not talking to him was punishment enough on him).
I have lost a lot of respect for my friend because of his always coming to me for money. I even sometimes feel nauseous. Even my former maid had less respect for him when she would witness me often giving him money. She would refer to him as "your son" because, she saw me like a mother to him more than a friend since he was coming to me for money like a kid to his parent.
Anyway, this is my situation: These past couple of weeks, he has again been coming to me for money. He is in a situation where, if he does not come up with $500, his RV will be towed away. He lives in his RV because he is poor and, because he failed to register it, he now has to pay not only for registration but also fines. The parking enforcement gave him one week or it will be towed. He needs the money by Monday. I told him to stop asking for money. That I was not going to help him. He still, in subtle hints, has been asking for help.
Would it be unchristianly of me to not give him the money, knowing that his RV in which he lives in could be towed away. I am really sick and tired of helping him out financially.
Anyway, my question.