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Author Topic: What to talk about with Catholic young women?  (Read 1004 times)

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Re: What to talk about with Catholic young women?
« Reply #15 on: Yesterday at 05:59:17 PM »

None of that is bad advice. However speaking to the man, I would say that if he can't manage to talk to her father then he's not ready to lead a woman.
Yes. What is sometimes forgotten, is that when a man marries a woman, he is also marrying her whole family, in a sense, and in a particular way, her father.

The relationship a woman has with her father, will directly impact the relationship she has with her husband.

When the wife perceives that the husband is being “mean” (a problem all too common it seems) she will often flock to daddy to make everything better again, forgetting she is now under the protection and authority of her husband, which her father willingly bestowed upon the husband at the altar.

Of course, the father can help her (if he does not cause division between the spouses through an inordinate attachment to his daughter), but the future husband should be aware of the kind of dynamics he may be entering into.


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Re: What to talk about with Catholic young women?
« Reply #16 on: Today at 01:20:35 AM »
I believe that judging people based on their parents is unfair. Especially nowadays, where most Catholics are already isolated and desperately clinging to the truth where the whole world is going to hell.

Also, there is no need to be so aggressive or to insult others. It is sinful , and it is a bad example for the faithful.
Exactly. This individual has such a weird attitude because in most of the church history, Catholics celebrate converts. It's a heroic act to withdraw oneself from a sinners family. But some weird "trads" speak like devils themselves to insult or judge converts "because he/she didn't have a Catholic family" with a better-than-thou attitude. I wonder if he goes to Mass with his father. Because even if he does, it shows us how that's not helping either.


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Re: What to talk about with Catholic young women?
« Reply #17 on: Today at 01:24:04 AM »
Yes. What is sometimes forgotten, is that when a man marries a woman, he is also marrying her whole family, in a sense, and in a particular way, her father.

The relationship a woman has with her father, will directly impact the relationship she has with her husband.

When the wife perceives that the husband is being “mean” (a problem all too common it seems) she will often flock to daddy to make everything better again, forgetting she is now under the protection and authority of her husband, which her father willingly bestowed upon the husband at the altar.

Of course, the father can help her (if he does not cause division between the spouses through an inordinate attachment to his daughter), but the future husband should be aware of the kind of dynamics he may be entering into.
Doesn't your latter example prove your former point wrong? It almost seems like you DON'T want a girl that has a good relationship with her father so that she will not run back to him? I'm not saying that's what I think but your response makes no sense.

Re: What to talk about with Catholic young women?
« Reply #18 on: Today at 08:27:09 AM »
Doesn't your latter example prove your former point wrong? It almost seems like you DON'T want a girl that has a good relationship with her father so that she will not run back to him? I'm not saying that's what I think but your response makes no sense.
Of course a father and daughter should have a good relationship, who wouldn’t desire this? 

I don’t believe I described a daughter that has a good relationship with her father, in the example I gave. 

I clarified by stating that a father can be of use in his daughter’s marriage on the condition that he is objective about what’s going on with her husband, should there be any problems, and not blinded by affection for her. 

A good father tells his daughter the truth, and does not favour her side of the story simply because she is his daughter.

I don’t see how anyone can disagree with that.

Re: What to talk about with Catholic young women?
« Reply #19 on: Today at 09:05:17 AM »
I believe that judging people based on their parents is unfair. Especially nowadays, where most Catholics are already isolated and desperately clinging to the truth where the whole world is going to hell.

Also, there is no need to be so aggressive or to insult others. It is sinful , and it is a bad example for the faithful.

We're not talking about judging a persons soul.

We're talking about the formation of character and the likely direction of their life based on that.