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Traditional Catholic Faith => Anσnymσus Posts Allowed => Topic started by: Änσnymσus on June 24, 2016, 07:36:13 PM
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What constitutes a sexless marriage and what do you do about it? Is it just me or do wives not put out much these days. Seems not putting out is an intentional move to end a marriage. no matter how hard I try to improve our situation, I'm just the default asshole. no matter what. why would any man want this?
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I guess the best answer would be to accept this cross and focus on your spiritual life. I have thought about this issue and truly believe that as men in marriage we are called to be like Saint Joseph. If your cross is accepted willingly, it will lead you to Heaven and it may help to save your wife's soul who is heading towards hell by her behavior.
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Truly it can become a form of penance and mortification.
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The above was posted by NCtradCath.The reply not the original question.
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Try romance. A husband makes love to his wife; not have sex.
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I am sure the above poster is far beyond that stage and has tried all the worldly advice.
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I am sure the above poster is far beyond that stage and has tried all the worldly advice.
Making love is worldly advice? :rolleyes:
It doesn't sound like he is far beyond that stage at all. He refers to it as putting out. Juvenile red flag.
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This might be stroll post? I didn't think of that.
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Anyone who thinks or speaks of the marital act as "putting out" is not a Catholic and does not qualify to be here. Yes, a troll.
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I am sure the above poster is far beyond that stage and has tried all the worldly advice.
Making love is worldly advice? :rolleyes:
It doesn't sound like he is far beyond that stage at all. He refers to it as putting out. Juvenile red flag.
poster here. up yours. the only thing juvenile is your catty response. this place sucks.
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http://www.cathinfo.com/catholic.php/Wife-consistently-refuses-the-marriage-debt
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How's your personal hygiene? Especially of the dental variety? No woman desires intimacy with a poster-child for trenchmouth. It amazes me how some men who obviously shower and deodorize every day, and take care in their dress and personal grooming show little attention to their oral hygiene. This is just as big a show-stopper for wives as extra poundage is for husbands, if not more so.
Not trying to be mean, but I have this in confidence from a wife for whom this has been a very off-putting issue. I can see how it would be. I am only relating this because it is a delicate subject that wives may not make known for fear of angering or embarrassing their husbands.
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If oral hygiene, or any hygiene for that matter is holding up the wife from wanting to be intimate with her husband, I think it's the best thing to do to tell her husband gently. It's up to him how he handles it. A husband should not be angered by this.
My husband knows that I am not at all interested if he comes home sweaty and stinky. He'll take a shower before even thinking about propositioning. I'll also tell him if his breath is bad. He'll go brush his teeth and all will be well. No big deal on either of our ends.
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I am sure the above poster is far beyond that stage and has tried all the worldly advice.
Making love is worldly advice? :rolleyes:
It doesn't sound like he is far beyond that stage at all. He refers to it as putting out. Juvenile red flag.
poster here. up yours. the only thing juvenile is your catty response. this place sucks.
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What constitutes a sexless marriage and what do you do about it? Is it just me or do wives not put out much these days. Seems not putting out is an intentional move to end a marriage. no matter how hard I try to improve our situation, I'm just the default asshole. no matter what. why would any man want this?
How crude a thing to say " Is it just me or do wives not put out much these days."
If that's your attitude, I can understand why your wife is turned off to you.
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Are you flirting with other women? Have you had or currently have a porn habit?
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What constitutes a sexless marriage and what do you do about it? Is it just me or do wives not put out much these days. Seems not putting out is an intentional move to end a marriage. no matter how hard I try to improve our situation, I'm just the default asshole. no matter what. why would any man want this?
Wow, OP. Looks like you're the default asshole here, too. I'm sorry about that. This place embarrasses me sometimes.
I'm sorry you're going through this kind of an awful problem. In answer to your question, I think I read that having sex less than ten times in a year is a sexless marriage. I've heard that 30% of married people are in this category, but I am willing to bet it's higher than that.
I don't know what to tell you. I can only pass the buck. I'm sorry about that. I wish Catholics knew more about this sort of stuff, but I don't think you're going to get many answers here. There is this Christian Post article, www.christianpost.com/news/married-without-well-you-know-intimacy-62555/ and I heard about a forum called the _________ marriage forum, so you'll probably find people there who have gone through this.
Good luck to you out there. This can't be easy.
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I am sure the above poster is far beyond that stage and has tried all the worldly advice.
Making love is worldly advice? :rolleyes:
It doesn't sound like he is far beyond that stage at all. He refers to it as putting out. Juvenile red flag.
poster here. up yours. the only thing juvenile is your catty response. this place sucks.
areyou already divorced?
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What constitutes a sexless marriage and what do you do about it? Is it just me or do wives not put out much these days. Seems not putting out is an intentional move to end a marriage. no matter how hard I try to improve our situation, I'm just the default asshole. no matter what. why would any man want this?
Wow, OP. Looks like you're the default asshole here, too. I'm sorry about that. This place embarrasses me sometimes.
I'm sorry you're going through this kind of an awful problem. In answer to your question, I think I read that having sex less than ten times in a year is a sexless marriage. I've heard that 30% of married people are in this category, but I am willing to bet it's higher than that.
I don't know what to tell you. I can only pass the buck. I'm sorry about that. I wish Catholics knew more about this sort of stuff, but I don't think you're going to get many answers here. There is this Christian Post article, www.christianpost.com/news/married-without-well-you-know-intimacy-62555/ and I heard about a forum called the __________ marriage forum, so you'll probably find people there who have gone through this.
Good luck to you out there. This can't be easy.
That was amusing, OP.
I gave you a link to 17 pages on the topic. If you read it all and don't have a single follow-up comment or question, then you're just trolling and might as well move on.
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What constitutes a sexless marriage and what do you do about it? Is it just me or do wives not put out much these days. Seems not putting out is an intentional move to end a marriage. no matter how hard I try to improve our situation, I'm just the default asshole. no matter what. why would any man want this?
Has InfiniteFaith finally married?
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I didn't suspect a troll but I thought it might be the op of the other thread that was linked in a response above.
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Although not written by a Catholic, The Body and Society: Men, Women, and sɛҳuąƖ Renunciation in Early Christianity (https://isidore.co/calibre/browse/book/5308) might be worth reading. Learning from our Christian ancestors might help.
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I am just throwing this out: My sister complained about her husband not coming to her. Turns out he was a ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ.
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I read about 10 pages of this book and it's totally pagan and borders on pornographic. It's not by a catholic author so it's very probable that it's conclusions will be immoral and/or anti-catholic. I would suggest that NO ONE read this.
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I am just throwing this out: My sister complained about her husband not coming to her. Turns out he was a ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ.
My good friend was in the same boat. Her husband was using pornography and had numerous internet romances. After almost a decade they still had no children. He had the unmitigated gall to blame her for the failure of their marriage. :really-mad2:
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I am just throwing this out: My sister complained about her husband not coming to her. Turns out he was a ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ.
My good friend was in the same boat. Her husband was using pornography and had numerous internet romances. After almost a decade they still had no children. He had the unmitigated gall to blame her for the failure of their marriage. :really-mad2:
When a man is not interested in marital relations with his wife, then 99.9% chances are he is using pornography and engaging in self-abuse or he has a lover.
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I am sure the above poster is far beyond that stage and has tried all the worldly advice.
Making love is worldly advice? :rolleyes:
It doesn't sound like he is far beyond that stage at all. He refers to it as putting out. Juvenile red flag.
poster here. up yours. the only thing juvenile is your catty response. this place sucks.
"Up yours", "this place sucks" ??? Why bother with replies? This guy just outed himself as a troll and the biggest jerk to boot. Pray for the poor woman tethered to this guy.
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I read about 10 pages of this book and it's totally pagan and borders on pornographic. It's not by a catholic author so it's very probable that it's conclusions will be immoral and/or anti-catholic. I would suggest that NO ONE read this.
St. Thomas Aquinas was able to find truth in writings authored by pagans, Jews, and Muslims; why can you?
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I am just throwing this out: My sister complained about her husband not coming to her. Turns out he was a ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ.
By his own admission? If so, that's not a valid excuse.
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Your sister was lucky. If true, she could have contracted AIDS or one of the other disgusting std's that plague sodomites.
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I am sure the above poster is far beyond that stage and has tried all the worldly advice.
Making love is worldly advice? :rolleyes:
It doesn't sound like he is far beyond that stage at all. He refers to it as putting out. Juvenile red flag.
poster here. up yours. the only thing juvenile is your catty response. this place sucks.
"Up yours", "this place sucks" ??? Why bother with replies? This guy just outed himself as a troll and the biggest jerk to boot. Pray for the poor woman tethered to this guy.
OP here. That definitely wasn't me. Just some troll. Things are getting much better in my marriage, Thank You all for the advice. I'm surprised this thread got resurrected.
God reward you.
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^Actually sorry, I thought it was another thread, please ignore the above post. I am not OP. Mea Culpa, I thought I was posting in another thread.
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I am sure the above poster is far beyond that stage and has tried all the worldly advice.
Making love is worldly advice? :rolleyes:
It doesn't sound like he is far beyond that stage at all. He refers to it as putting out. Juvenile red flag.
poster here. up yours. the only thing juvenile is your catty response. this place sucks.
"Up yours", "this place sucks" ??? Why bother with replies? This guy just outed himself as a troll and the biggest jerk to boot. Pray for the poor woman tethered to this guy.
OP here. That definitely wasn't me. Just some troll. Things are getting much better in my marriage, Thank You all for the advice. I'm surprised this thread got resurrected.
God reward you.
^Actually sorry, I thought it was another thread, please ignore the above post. I am not OP. Mea Culpa, I thought I was posting in another thread.
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My sister did get Herpes from the ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ husband. I was floored. I was visiting my sister and asked her why she had a c-section giving birth with the 2nd child. Herpes she said. I said, sis, that is a sɛҳuąƖly transmitted disease. She became furious. You are accusing me or him?!
My sister told me, that her doctor told her, that Herpes was common. No flags or alert was given to her by this doctor! I told her, I am so sorry, but, that doctor was supposed to advise you of any partners that may have given it to you, it is STD.
My sister remained furious, towards me. A few years later, after 11 years of marriage, she saw his actions. Divorce. Truth is the marriage was invalid, because he lied to my sister. He was a homo before the wedding. Even their priest had no remorse for my sister. She later found out that there were 3 other families in the New Order church that the husband was homo/pervert! Wives knew!
I think the doctor was on the perverts side in that town. To this day, my sister refuses to have communications with me.
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To this day, my sister refuses to have communications with me.
That's strange. Isn't she thankful you were looking out for her?