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Änσnymσus · « **on:** October 25, 2020, 10:43:39 AM »

I am a college educated woman who works in a male-dominated field (I fell into this by accident because of my skills in Excel). I went to college AFTER I became a single mother and it was online university. My student loan debt is astronomical and I suspect the degree might have been unnecessary for my job. My career began after my husband left me so that was not an issue in the split. But I was working before we married and I always suspected my quitting caused great resentment in him. He never paid child support or visited the children either (he went underground and has since died).

I want to warn women who are considering pursing a college degree and career of something they may not have considered. I have been the target of shiftless men (spotty job history, weak or non-practicing Catholics, addicts) who style themselves the love of my life but eventually have outed themselves as parasites. I believe their primary goal is to marry a woman with a good income so they don't have to work at all.

You can identify these men (even the "Catholic" ones) by certain code words:

respect intelligent woman
like a woman who can bounce back from adversity
always wanted to meet a woman like his grandmother (who worked as a fieldhand or other manual labor)
looking for a soul mate
appreciate someone who looks inside a person to value their inner qualities
prefers to not judge people on actions but their intrinsic qualities
claims to not look down on women who make more money than men
needs someone who understands his artistic sensitivities
thinks women are superior to men
is not firmly opposed to abortion or contraceptives

I actually could go on. But I want to spread the word that being college educated could make a young woman the target of a leech. I actually recommend that if a woman already has a college degree or career that she NOT reveal that to potential suitors until after she has confirmed his financial and career stability. And then make it clear that upon marriage she would completely quit public work.

SimpleMan · « **Reply #1 on:** October 25, 2020, 11:54:21 AM »

Quote from: Anonymous on October 25, 2020, 10:43:39 AM

I am a college educated woman who works in a male-dominated field (I fell into this by accident because of my skills in Excel). I went to college AFTER I became a single mother and it was online university. My student loan debt is astronomical and I suspect the degree might have been unnecessary for my job. My career began after my husband left me so that was not an issue in the split. But I was working before we married and I always suspected my quitting caused great resentment in him. He never paid child support or visited the children either (he went underground and has since died).

I want to warn women who are considering pursing a college degree and career of something they may not have considered. I have been the target of shiftless men (spotty job history, weak or non-practicing Catholics, addicts) who style themselves the love of my life but eventually have outed themselves as parasites. I believe their primary goal is to marry a woman with a good income so they don't have to work at all.

You can identify these men (even the "Catholic" ones) by certain code words:
respect intelligent woman
like a woman who can bounce back from adversity
always wanted to meet a woman like his grandmother (who worked as a fieldhand or other manual labor)
looking for a soul mate
appreciate someone who looks inside a person to value their inner qualities
prefers to not judge people on actions but their intrinsic qualities
claims to not look down on women who make more money than men
needs someone who understands his artistic sensitivities
thinks women are superior to men
is not firmly opposed to abortion or contraceptives

I actually could go on. But I want to spread the word that being college educated could make a young woman the target of a leech. I actually recommend that if a woman already has a college degree or career that she NOT reveal that to potential suitors until after she has confirmed his financial and career stability. And then make it clear that upon marriage she would completely quit public work.

Very well put, and there are a lot of men out there like that, both Catholic and non-Catholic. I've known of several. But I'm not sure how a woman could hide her education or career for any meaningful period of time. I would say to put it out there, find out about his, and then test his character.

In fact, in my part of the country, it's almost axiomatic that the wife will have the "good" job, the secure one with health insurance, the "clean", indoor job, whereas the husband, unless he is a white-collar professional, will have the hard, "dirty", often outdoors, often insecure or itinerant job, and it is the wife who basically "keeps" the family in many cases. I call this the "mommies are smart, daddies aren't" phenomenon (but they manage to be smart enough to find a woman like this in the first place!). Guess who controls the bank account, writes the checks, pays the bills, and which one gets the allowance. And guess which one "gets the kids" if they divorce.

This wasn't my reality, and it never would have been. I don't roll like that. True, when my wife and I were together, we both made decent money (she built a respectable clerical career basically starting from nothing), and due to many years of selfish use of NFP (a sin which was long ago addressed in confession to a traditionalist priest, I don't know what she did about her side of it), we were able to have a fairly affluent lifestyle, took nice vacations every year both stateside and overseas, saved donkey-loads of money. But I never looked to her for support. That's not something a man has any business doing. I have a small, simple home, and I can "take a vacation" out on my patio with a cold beer, if I have to. Donna Povertà can be a very nice "wife" if you allow her to be.

And I basically "got the kid". That's the most important thing.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #2 on:** October 25, 2020, 12:35:21 PM »

I remember clearly my younger sister coming home one day from college in the early 1970's and said that her Professor
said in class that America has a perfectly workings for a socialist state and religion should be abolished.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #3 on:** October 25, 2020, 01:30:31 PM »

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #4 on:** October 25, 2020, 04:45:04 PM »

Quote from: Anonymous on October 25, 2020, 10:43:39 AM

I am a college educated woman who works in a male-dominated field (I fell into this by accident because of my skills in Excel). I went to college AFTER I became a single mother and it was online university. My student loan debt is astronomical and I suspect the degree might have been unnecessary for my job. My career began after my husband left me so that was not an issue in the split. But I was working before we married and I always suspected my quitting caused great resentment in him. He never paid child support or visited the children either (he went underground and has since died).

I want to warn women who are considering pursing a college degree and career of something they may not have considered. I have been the target of shiftless men (spotty job history, weak or non-practicing Catholics, addicts) who style themselves the love of my life but eventually have outed themselves as parasites. I believe their primary goal is to marry a woman with a good income so they don't have to work at all.

You can identify these men (even the "Catholic" ones) by certain code words:
respect intelligent woman
like a woman who can bounce back from adversity
always wanted to meet a woman like his grandmother (who worked as a fieldhand or other manual labor)
looking for a soul mate
appreciate someone who looks inside a person to value their inner qualities
prefers to not judge people on actions but their intrinsic qualities
claims to not look down on women who make more money than men
needs someone who understands his artistic sensitivities
thinks women are superior to men
is not firmly opposed to abortion or contraceptives

I actually could go on. But I want to spread the word that being college educated could make a young woman the target of a leech. I actually recommend that if a woman already has a college degree or career that she NOT reveal that to potential suitors until after she has confirmed his financial and career stability. And then make it clear that upon marriage she would completely quit public work.

It's almost like a role-reversal in women leads to a role-reversal in men. Who would have guessed?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #5 on:** October 25, 2020, 07:25:44 PM »

You can identify these men (even the "Catholic" ones) by certain code words:

respect intelligent woman
like a woman who can bounce back from adversity
always wanted to meet a woman like his grandmother (who worked as a fieldhand or other manual labor)
looking for a soul mate
appreciate someone who looks inside a person to value their inner qualities
prefers to not judge people on actions but their intrinsic qualities
claims to not look down on women who make more money than men
needs someone who understands his artistic sensitivities
thinks women are superior to men
is not firmly opposed to abortion or contraceptives.
Trust women

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #6 on:** October 25, 2020, 08:37:53 PM »

Quote from: Anonymous on October 25, 2020, 10:43:39 AM

I am a college educated woman who works in a male-dominated field (I fell into this by accident because of my skills in Excel). I went to college AFTER I became a single mother and it was online university. My student loan debt is astronomical and I suspect the degree might have been unnecessary for my job. My career began after my husband left me so that was not an issue in the split. But I was working before we married and I always suspected my quitting caused great resentment in him. He never paid child support or visited the children either (he went underground and has since died).

I want to warn women who are considering pursing a college degree and career of something they may not have considered. I have been the target of shiftless men (spotty job history, weak or non-practicing Catholics, addicts) who style themselves the love of my life but eventually have outed themselves as parasites. I believe their primary goal is to marry a woman with a good income so they don't have to work at all.

You can identify these men (even the "Catholic" ones) by certain code words:
respect intelligent woman
like a woman who can bounce back from adversity
always wanted to meet a woman like his grandmother (who worked as a fieldhand or other manual labor)
looking for a soul mate
appreciate someone who looks inside a person to value their inner qualities
prefers to not judge people on actions but their intrinsic qualities
claims to not look down on women who make more money than men
needs someone who understands his artistic sensitivities
thinks women are superior to men
is not firmly opposed to abortion or contraceptives

I actually could go on. But I want to spread the word that being college educated could make a young woman the target of a leech. I actually recommend that if a woman already has a college degree or career that she NOT reveal that to potential suitors until after she has confirmed his financial and career stability. And then make it clear that upon marriage she would completely quit public work.

The men at an sspx chapel i frequent seem to look for these qualities in a potential spouse:
- money
- immodesty
- looseness (low standard of morality)

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #7 on:** October 25, 2020, 09:47:47 PM »

Quote from: Anonymous on October 25, 2020, 10:43:39 AM

I am a college educated woman who works in a male-dominated field (I fell into this by accident because of my skills in Excel). I went to college AFTER I became a single mother and it was online university. My student loan debt is astronomical and I suspect the degree might have been unnecessary for my job. My career began after my husband left me so that was not an issue in the split. But I was working before we married and I always suspected my quitting caused great resentment in him. He never paid child support or visited the children either (he went underground and has since died).

I want to warn women who are considering pursing a college degree and career of something they may not have considered. I have been the target of shiftless men (spotty job history, weak or non-practicing Catholics, addicts) who style themselves the love of my life but eventually have outed themselves as parasites. I believe their primary goal is to marry a woman with a good income so they don't have to work at all.

You can identify these men (even the "Catholic" ones) by certain code words:
respect intelligent woman
like a woman who can bounce back from adversity
always wanted to meet a woman like his grandmother (who worked as a fieldhand or other manual labor)
looking for a soul mate
appreciate someone who looks inside a person to value their inner qualities
prefers to not judge people on actions but their intrinsic qualities
claims to not look down on women who make more money than men
needs someone who understands his artistic sensitivities
thinks women are superior to men
is not firmly opposed to abortion or contraceptives

I actually could go on. But I want to spread the word that being college educated could make a young woman the target of a leech. I actually recommend that if a woman already has a college degree or career that she NOT reveal that to potential suitors until after she has confirmed his financial and career stability. And then make it clear that upon marriage she would completely quit public work.

Face it: older women, educated or not, are leftovers. All the pure and beautiful women are already married by age 22. As leftovers, you must adjust yourselves and realize that you might not attract the highest calibre of trad men. If you think trad men are parasites, try Novus Order or non-Catholics men.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #8 on:** October 25, 2020, 10:09:13 PM »

    Woman seeking advice from wealthy executive

Title: What Should I Do To Marry A Rich Guy?
      ... I'm going to be honest of what I'm going to say here.
    I'm 25 this year. I'm very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above.
    You might say that I'm greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.
    My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married?
    I wanted to ask: What should I do to marry rich persons like you?
    Among those I've dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit.
    If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden(?), $250k annual income is not enough.
    I'm here humbly to ask a few questions:
    1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym).
    2) Which age group should I target?
    3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I've met a few girls who don't have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
    4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married).
     Sincerely, Ms. Pretty.

    Dear Ms. Pretty,
    I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor.
    My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I'm not wasting time here.
    From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.
    Put the details aside, what you're trying to do is an exchange of "beauty" and "money": Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.
    However, there's a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can't be prettier year after year.
    Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It's not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.
    By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a "trading position". If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term - same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or "leased".
    Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself a rich person with $500k annual income by leasing yourself. This has better chance than finding a rich fool.
    Hope this reply helps.
    Signed, J.P. Morgan CEO

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #9 on:** October 25, 2020, 10:29:02 PM »

Quote from: Anonymous on October 25, 2020, 10:43:39 AM

I am a college educated woman who works in a male-dominated field (I fell into this by accident because of my skills in Excel). I went to college AFTER I became a single mother and it was online university. My student loan debt is astronomical and I suspect the degree might have been unnecessary for my job. My career began after my husband left me so that was not an issue in the split. But I was working before we married and I always suspected my quitting caused great resentment in him. He never paid child support or visited the children either (he went underground and has since died).

I want to warn women who are considering pursing a college degree and career of something they may not have considered. I have been the target of shiftless men (spotty job history, weak or non-practicing Catholics, addicts) who style themselves the love of my life but eventually have outed themselves as parasites. I believe their primary goal is to marry a woman with a good income so they don't have to work at all.

You can identify these men (even the "Catholic" ones) by certain code words:
respect intelligent woman
like a woman who can bounce back from adversity
always wanted to meet a woman like his grandmother (who worked as a fieldhand or other manual labor)
looking for a soul mate
appreciate someone who looks inside a person to value their inner qualities
prefers to not judge people on actions but their intrinsic qualities
claims to not look down on women who make more money than men
needs someone who understands his artistic sensitivities
thinks women are superior to men
is not firmly opposed to abortion or contraceptives

I actually could go on. But I want to spread the word that being college educated could make a young woman the target of a leech. I actually recommend that if a woman already has a college degree or career that she NOT reveal that to potential suitors until after she has confirmed his financial and career stability. And then make it clear that upon marriage she would completely quit public work.

Matthew · « **Reply #10 on:** October 26, 2020, 02:23:09 AM »

Again, regardless of who started this Anonymous thread, this is an important topic that affects the whole flow of one's life, and possibly even one's salvation and that of one's children.
Important stuff, unlike the "status of the Pope" debate.

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I actually could go on. But I want to spread the word that being college educated could make a young woman the target of a leech. I actually recommend that if a woman already has a college degree or career that she NOT reveal that to potential suitors until after she has confirmed his financial and career stability. And then make it clear that upon marriage she would completely quit public work.

That is a good point. It's hard to leech off a woman who doesn't have anything to offer a leech. And if she DOES have means, property to be inherited, a great career, etc. it behooves her to reveal that kind of stuff AS LATE AS POSSIBLE in the courting process.

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #11 on:** October 26, 2020, 02:26:16 AM »

Quote from: Matthew on October 26, 2020, 02:23:09 AM

It's hard to leech off a woman who doesn't have anything to offer a leech. And if she DOES have means, property to be inherited, a great career, etc. it behooves her to reveal that kind of stuff AS LATE AS POSSIBLE in the courting process.

Isn't that the opposite for men?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #12 on:** October 26, 2020, 07:11:44 AM »

Quote from: Anonymous on October 26, 2020, 02:26:16 AM

Isn't that the opposite for men?

An interesting question.

SimpleMan · « **Reply #13 on:** October 27, 2020, 06:08:55 PM »

Quote from: Anonymous on October 25, 2020, 09:47:47 PM

Face it: older women, educated or not, are leftovers. All the pure and beautiful women are already married by age 22. As leftovers, you must adjust yourselves and realize that you might not attract the highest calibre of trad men. If you think trad men are parasites, try Novus Order or non-Catholics men.

Some women have keen intellects, and a desire to be well-educated and to have a career, at least for a part of their lives. I seriously doubt that all traditional Catholic women want to go through life with only a high school education. I would want an intelligent, educated, interesting woman who can converse freely on all manner of subjects, and have a good intellectual discussion. And keep in mind that a well-educated wife will be able to homeschool your children on an entirely different level.

Put another way, would you rather be married to a Solange Hertz or an Alice von Hildebrand, or would you rather be married to a woman whose letters stopped with Charlotte's Web and Little Women?

Änσnymσus · « **Reply #14 on:** October 27, 2020, 06:29:12 PM »

Quote from: SimpleMan on October 27, 2020, 06:08:55 PM

I seriously doubt that all traditional Catholic women want to go through life with only a high school education. I would want an intelligent, educated, interesting woman who can converse freely on all manner of subjects, and have a good intellectual discussion. And keep in mind that a well-educated wife will be able to homeschool your children on an entirely different level.

I am in my 60's, and all of the great and rich business men I have known and worked with in my life did not possess a college degree. There are innumerable intelligent people in this world that never got a college degree. I've known many great and rich business men that didn't even have a high school diploma. My wife has homeschooled out children from K-12 and she does not have a college degree.

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