When my parents met, my mother had graduated from secretarial school and had taken two years of business math in college. She was also six years older than my father, an enlisted man “on his way up” in the US Navy. He’d gone straight from high school into the service. Mom worked for the electric company and made a tidy income that supported not only herself, but her mother and grandmother. She was co-owner of the house. No attempt was made to hide her education or income. She was teased about being a cradle-robber and my Dad was accused of being a male gold-digger. They married after a two year courtship. By then, Dad had made Chief P.O. Mom worked for a year after they got married and quit once they purchased a house. She stayed home to raise us, only returning to a paying job part time when the youngest was in high school. It was during the post WWII boom when you could actually buy a house, support a wife and children, and live close to NYC on one working man’s income. The house was modest, two bedrooms, one bathroom, combined living/dining room, kitchen, unfinished basement. We owned one car. Dad carpooled to work after he left the Navy in 1964. He left at 7:00 and was home by 5:00 unless a special project was in the works. He had weekends, federal holidays, two week’s vacation. He got 10 paid sick days per year which could be saved or used, after five years, as vacation. The job included medical insurance for the family.
Try to live like this now on one blue-collar job! It’s impossible. Today, you’d be in a crappy apartment and on welfare. You’d both be working multiple jobs, long hours, no benefits, low pay, no chance of “working your way up.” The average income in 2017 was $211, 600. The median home price was $649, 572.
My point, women who are college educated is a very minor issue contributing to young adult trads not finding a suitable marriage partner and starting a family. There are too many societal factors at work making it extremely difficult. And now, the stupid COVID restrictions, young people can’t meet! Seriously, does anyone conduct a complete courtship including engagement on Zoom? I’ve a nephew who’d like to get married, but working 16 hour days at two blue collar jobs, sometimes going 8-9 days without a day off, nowhere to actually meet someone, his social life is nonexistent.
Given the current state of the world, St. Paul’s advice to stay single unless doing so results in sin is probably the best option at this time.