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Vow of Marital Continence
« on: December 02, 2013, 09:00:39 AM »
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    • Has anyone made a vow of marital continence?  If there a particular form to making the vow?  Does a priest need to witness?

    Also, what was the result on the marriage relationship?  Did it get better or worse?

    I'm discussing this with my spouse because sex has created too much drama in our marriage.  I'm wondering if we take a vow for a period of time things might calm down.  
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    « Reply #1 on: December 02, 2013, 09:44:46 AM »
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    • I'm not sure if such a vow can be made.  I say that because either spouse has the absolute right to demand the marital debt at any time, and to refuse the marital debt is sinful.  While spouses can mutually agree to periods of abstinence, either spouse can break that agreement and demand the debt, and the other cannot refuse under pain of sin.  It would seem, to take a vow of continence before God, may place a spouse in an untenable position if the other demands the debt later (which would be his or her absolute right to do).
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    Vow of Marital Continence
    « Reply #2 on: December 07, 2013, 04:26:03 PM »
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    I'm not sure if such a vow can be made.
    Yes, it can, but priests usually advise it be done after child-bearing years.

    Mother Mary and St. Joseph were quite exceptional.
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    « Reply #3 on: December 07, 2013, 04:45:23 PM »
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    • Another Josephite marriage thread, I see.
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    Vow of Marital Continence
    « Reply #4 on: December 07, 2013, 04:47:17 PM »
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    Has anyone made a vow of marital continence?  If there a particular form to making the vow?  Does a priest need to witness?

    Also, what was the result on the marriage relationship?  Did it get better or worse?

    I'm discussing this with my spouse because sex has created too much drama in our marriage.  I'm wondering if we take a vow for a period of time things might calm down.  


    It is perfectly licit to mutually decide to abstain from relations for a time, but no such vow is necessary, and even if taken, the marital debt would supercede it.  I.e., vow or not, if either of you requested the marital debt of the other, the obligation to satisfy still exists under pain of sin against the marriage.
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