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Re: Unsure what to do
« Reply #90 on: June 15, 2025, 10:18:20 AM »
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    • Quote from: WorldsAway on June 15, 2025, 09:07:48 AM
    Well, at least in the future you won't wonder "what could have been" if you hadn't talked to her. There's that. There are plenty of chicky chicks in the coop :cowboy:
    I feel quite misled. How can a woman show so much interest and eagerness to getting to know you when you first met then forget about you within months? It was a first for me, having someone of the opposite gender show that level of interest, I thought I found someone who had mutual feelings, but I guess I was wrong.
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    « Reply #91 on: June 15, 2025, 10:51:31 AM »
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    • I've seen many cathinfo users point out that traditional Catholic girls are little different from secular ones in their mindset and how they deal with men.

    Let's see
    - friend zoning
    - misleading / false signals
    - feminism
    - disrespectful 
    - not wanting to get married young (late teens)
    - thinking age gaps are bad
    - disobedience to father/husbands (really disobedience to God/order God has made)
    - 20/80 rule
    - career woman meme
    - wearing pants
    - accept/ignore a converts 'past'

    I thought these posts by the men on here were truthful but I was in denial about how bad it was until it happened to me myself. Trads are infact affected by the modern world and it's propaganda. Maybe there are a small percentage of trad girls who aren't like this but I am losing hope in my local community.

    What is the problem here? How do we fix the females?
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #92 on: June 15, 2025, 11:06:47 AM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 10:51:31 AM
    I've seen many cathinfo users point out that traditional Catholic girls are little different from secular ones in their mindset and how they deal with men.

    Let's see
    - friend zoning
    - misleading / false signals
    - feminism
    - disrespectful
    - not wanting to get married young (late teens)
    - thinking age gaps are bad
    - disobedience to father/husbands (really disobedience to God/order God has made)
    - 20/80 rule
    - career woman meme
    - wearing pants
    - accept/ignore a converts 'past'

    I thought these posts by the men on here were truthful but I was in denial about how bad it was until it happened to me myself. Trads are infact affected by the modern world and it's propaganda. Maybe there are a small percentage of trad girls who aren't like this but I am losing hope in my local community.

    What is the problem here? How do we fix the females?
    Just because a trad woman wears skirts/dresses, wants to be a homemaker, etc. doesn't mean she'll be a good wife. She may be a good mother but she could be constantly disrespecting her husband, nagging him, thinking she could have done better. 
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #93 on: June 15, 2025, 11:07:43 AM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 10:18:20 AM
    I feel quite misled. How can a woman show so much interest and eagerness to getting to know you when you first met then forget about you within months? It was a first for me, having someone of the opposite gender show that level of interest, I thought I found someone who had mutual feelings, but I guess I was wrong.
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    “A woman is ever a fickle and changeable thing.
     How much differently did she treat you today than several months back? Can't say for sure, but is it possible that you are overanalyzing either your first meeting or today's? Personally, I tend to do that..reminds me of a quote from a movie. "Why do I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention?" Woe is life
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    John 15:19  If you had been of the world, the world would love its own: but because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.

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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #94 on: June 15, 2025, 11:25:47 AM »
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    • Or the very simple answer could be that she is taken. 
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    « Reply #95 on: June 15, 2025, 11:27:37 AM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 10:51:31 AM
    I've seen many cathinfo users point out that traditional Catholic girls are little different from secular ones in their mindset and how they deal with men.

    Let's see
    - friend zoning
    - misleading / false signals
    - feminism
    - disrespectful
    - not wanting to get married young (late teens)
    - thinking age gaps are bad
    - disobedience to father/husbands (really disobedience to God/order God has made)
    - 20/80 rule
    - career woman meme
    - wearing pants
    - accept/ignore a converts 'past'

    I thought these posts by the men on here were truthful but I was in denial about how bad it was until it happened to me myself. Trads are infact affected by the modern world and it's propaganda. Maybe there are a small percentage of trad girls who aren't like this but I am losing hope in my local community.

    What is the problem here? How do we fix the females?
    You have talked to her twice. I would not label her with any of this. 
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    « Reply #96 on: June 15, 2025, 11:50:40 AM »
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    • Quote from: WorldsAway on June 15, 2025, 11:07:43 AM
    How much differently did she treat you today than several months back? Can't say for sure, but is it possible that you are overanalyzing either your first meeting or today's? Personally, I tend to do that..reminds me of a quote from a movie. "Why do I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention?" Woe is life
    Day and night. She basically talked to me the whole time and seemed very interested vs barely spoke to me and no interest.
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    « Reply #97 on: June 15, 2025, 12:17:26 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 11:50:40 AM
    Day and night. She basically talked to me the whole time and seemed very interested vs barely spoke to me and no interest.
    If it was me at the age, then I would have run away from him as fast as I could because his move was so bold to come to my church just to see me.  I would run away in fear because I just wouldn't know what to do.  Maybe that is just an exception and not the rule.  
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    « Reply #98 on: June 15, 2025, 12:28:29 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 12:17:26 PM
    If it was me at the age, then I would have run away from him as fast as I could because his move was so bold to come to my church just to see me.  I would run away in fear because I just wouldn't know what to do.  Maybe that is just an exception and not the rule. 
    She even suggested that I come to her Church...
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    « Reply #99 on: June 15, 2025, 12:30:51 PM »
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    • You are sure she’s not interested? 
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    « Reply #100 on: June 15, 2025, 12:54:43 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 12:30:51 PM
    You are sure she’s not interested?
    Honestly I don't know, i am not 'certain'. If she comes to the weekday sung mass I will try to talk to her properly. I just don't understand the 180° change in her attitude.

    Maybe I'm an outlier but I don't change my feelings in a short time of 4 months. I'm the type of guy who could not talk to a friend for 10 years and then one day talk to them where we last left off.
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    « Reply #101 on: June 15, 2025, 01:02:27 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 12:28:29 PM
    She even suggested that I come to her Church...
    Yes, but I was friendly like that and said things I didn't think would happen.  If they did happen I would wig out.  This is just a shy timid girls perspective.  

    I think you need to take a breather from your thoughts.  If you think of her say a Hail Mary.  Then just watch and pray.

    If she comes back to your church and approaches you, then think about her again, until then, please find a physical hobby.  Buy some weights. Join a gym.  Anything to stop the over analyzing.  It is just going to make you crazy and insecure.

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    « Reply #102 on: June 15, 2025, 04:48:29 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 12:17:26 PM
    If it was me at the age, then I would have run away from him as fast as I could because his move was so bold to come to my church just to see me.  I would run away in fear because I just wouldn't know what to do.  Maybe that is just an exception and not the rule. 
    Yes, it is very possible that the surprise visit at her church scared her off.  Although the OP meant well, I was concerned that this was a very good possibility.

    The OP said she invited him to her Church.  That, in and of itself, does not mean she was interested in a non-platonic relationship.
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    « Reply #103 on: June 15, 2025, 04:49:46 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 11:27:37 AM
    You have talked to her twice. I would not label her with any of this.
    This.
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    « Reply #104 on: June 15, 2025, 06:04:07 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 11:27:37 AM
    You have talked to her twice. I would not label her with any of this.
    Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 15, 2025, 04:49:46 PM
    This.
    This is an anonymous board, there is no guarantee that post was OP. From my own perspective, the many ladies at my chapel lack feminine charm. Both and ladies and the men treat each other the same, but this not a good thing.
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