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Re: Unsure what to do
« Reply #75 on: June 13, 2025, 08:34:08 PM »
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    • Go with Op. 2,

    If, on the off chance you miss, just use Op. 1 next week. 

    She can't really get away, just use the best technique first.

    Use the light approach as far as what to bring up and how early, you're trying to feel her out first. If she's not happy to associate with you in general (especially if/when you show special interest) you won't even get far enough for deep topics.

    If she's thrilled to receive attentions from you, then you'll get the best possible hearing on any of the hard topics. (Be careful though, it can work both ways such that you could have a hard time taking a stand once you're in deep). 
    You also have to be careful that if you get her attached, she might take your positions on things to please you instead of being deeply convinced.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #76 on: June 13, 2025, 08:36:45 PM »
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    • Praying for you, and her. :pray: 
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #77 on: June 13, 2025, 08:41:55 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 13, 2025, 08:34:08 PM
    Go with Op. 2,

    If, on the off chance you miss, just use Op. 1 next week.

    She can't really get away, just use the best technique first.

    Use the light approach as far as what to bring up and how early, you're trying to feel her out first. If she's not happy to associate with you in general (especially if/when you show special interest) you won't even get far enough for deep topics.

    If she's thrilled to receive attentions from you, then you'll get the best possible hearing on any of the hard topics. (Be careful though, it can work both ways such that you could have a hard time taking a stand once you're in deep).
    You also have to be careful that if you get her attached, she might take your positions on things to please you instead of being deeply convinced.
    Next week I am serving at a later mass so if I can't see her this week it will be a long 2 week torturous wait.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #78 on: June 13, 2025, 08:46:52 PM »
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    • You waited this long already. More time to offer prayers if necessary.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #79 on: June 13, 2025, 10:51:16 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 13, 2025, 08:17:04 PM
    I don't know.  This song reminded me of the OP.


    Or this to help OP relax 

    https://youtube.com/watch?v=XpJEg6MTPzc

    Even the top comment is on relevant lol
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    This music plays whenever I try to talk to a girl

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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #80 on: June 14, 2025, 09:24:58 PM »
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    • Alright im waiting now, :pray:
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #81 on: June 14, 2025, 09:53:37 PM »
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #82 on: June 14, 2025, 10:02:03 PM »
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    • Glory to God in all things, no matter the outcome. Good luck!
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #83 on: June 14, 2025, 10:40:29 PM »
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    • Alright guys that did not turn out as expected. She didn't remember my name and didn't seem too interested. She also looked and sounded different fom what I remembered, almost like a different person.

    I didn't ask for her number or speak to her privately. I guess I was misremembering and overthinking. Too bad.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #84 on: June 14, 2025, 11:13:50 PM »
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    • Read this book https://tanbooks.com/ebooks-audiobooks/the-mystery-of-love-for-the-single-a-guide-for-those-who-follow-the-single-vocation-in-the-world-ebook/?srsltid=AfmBOorfTO1yf4_6hWZd3Nf3XdVdzPaMN-hMT8cUJGKhAEZx0zZmd0gs

    The Mystery of Love for the Single by CAP. Father Dominic J. Unger, O.F.M.

    There is really only one rule for treating the opposite sex and that is with respect. Leave it to the Holy Ghost and a Single Vocation 

    1 Corinthians 7:8
    But I say to the unmarried, and to the widows: It is good for them if they so continue, even as I.

     Matthew 19:12
    He that can take, let him take it.

    Leave relationships and vocations to God. And stay away from meat markets, dating, etc.
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    « Reply #85 on: June 14, 2025, 11:31:57 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 14, 2025, 10:40:29 PM
    Alright guys that did not turn out as expected. She didn't remember my name and didn't seem too interested. She also looked and sounded different fom what I remembered, almost like a different person.

    I didn't ask for her number or speak to her privately. I guess I was misremembering and overthinking. Too bad.
    I don't even feel devastated, just underwhelmed and disappointed. At least my Lord will never forget me. And now I have closure. Well there's plenty of fish in the sea or as criox? would say, chicky chicks.
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    « Reply #86 on: Yesterday at 01:22:11 AM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 14, 2025, 11:31:57 PM
    I don't even feel devastated, just underwhelmed and disappointed. At least my Lord will never forget me. And now I have closure. Well there's plenty of fish in the sea or as criox? would say, chicky chicks.
    Oh I'm laughing. This weeks bulletin has the weekday sung mass, so she will probably be there. I could have just waited. Can't make this up lol. :clown:
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #87 on: Yesterday at 07:29:32 AM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 14, 2025, 11:31:57 PM
    I don't even feel devastated, just underwhelmed and disappointed. At least my Lord will never forget me. And now I have closure.
    I am happy to hear this.  Keep this in mind the next time you believe you're "in love".
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    « Reply #88 on: Yesterday at 08:03:14 AM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on Yesterday at 07:29:32 AM
    I am happy to hear this.  Keep this in mind the next time you believe you're "in love".
    Well I am a bit upset considering I still have feelings for her, there was definitely a connection when we met, I'm disappointed she didn't nurture it. I just hope my wife will be young and beautiful and nurtures her interests in me. 
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #89 on: Yesterday at 09:07:48 AM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 14, 2025, 11:31:57 PM
    I don't even feel devastated, just underwhelmed and disappointed. At least my Lord will never forget me. And now I have closure. Well there's plenty of fish in the sea or as criox? would say, chicky chicks.
    Well, at least in the future you won't wonder "what could have been" if you hadn't talked to her. There's that. There are plenty of chicky chicks in the coop :cowboy:
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    John 15:19  If you had been of the world, the world would love its own: but because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
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