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Änσnymσus

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Re: Unsure what to do
« Reply #15 on: June 07, 2025, 05:34:21 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 07, 2025, 05:13:18 PM
    Thanks for your response, funnily enough the Catholic girl I like is much more attractive and she may also like me, she mentioned that everyone forgets her so I wonder if she wanted me to remember her, I told her I wouldn't forgot her.

    This gal has probably been wishing you would ask her out to dinner or coffee for awhile now.  Seriously, You really should before someone else does!!

    And then report back here because we are invested now. ;):popcorn:
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #16 on: June 07, 2025, 05:36:37 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 07, 2025, 05:34:21 PM
    This gal has probably been wishing you would ask her out to dinner or coffee for awhile now.  Seriously, You really should before someone else does!!

    And then report back here because we are invested now. ;):popcorn:
    I thought I ticked the box but I guess not. ⬆️
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #17 on: June 07, 2025, 06:35:06 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 07, 2025, 05:00:28 PM
    I meant she is older than the other teen, one is mid teens (I'm not certain) the other is late teens.

    Since I believe in EENS and not BoD/BoB I feel this will be an issue in raising children, eventually it will come up. Should I just not mention it before marriage? That feels wrong.
    That's like saying that she might not agree with you on the historical significance of the Roman Empire. You'd be extremely blessed if this was the biggest disagreement between you and a potential spouse.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #18 on: June 07, 2025, 06:38:52 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 07, 2025, 05:13:18 PM
    It's just difficult as the Catholic girl goes to another chapel so I can't see her again unless she comes to mine, or I go out of my way to see and ask her for courtship, but I'm not ready for that, when I am I will because I really do love her (I pray for her to save her soul even if she doesn't marry me)
    How far away? How about just go to Mass where she does?


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    if I see that secular girl before I move I will ask her if she took any covid injections and go from there.


    What a way to introduce yourself! :laugh1:
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #19 on: June 07, 2025, 06:52:16 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 07, 2025, 05:00:28 PM
    I meant she is older than the other teen, one is mid teens (I'm not certain) the other is late teens.

    Since I believe in EENS and not BoD/BoB I feel this will be an issue in raising children, eventually it will come up. Should I just not mention it before marriage? That feels wrong.
    I would try to make sure she has at least a somewhat correct view on EENS, as someone who holds salvation through invincible ignorance, implicit BOD, anonymous Christianism, etc. will probably view a "Feeneyite" as a heretic. I am fine with someone holding BOD for catechumens/those with explicit faith (until that is condemned, that is)..but even that seems to be rare 

    Anyone know where a brother can find a single "Feeneyite" lady? :cowboy:
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #20 on: June 08, 2025, 12:17:28 AM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 07, 2025, 05:34:21 PM
    This gal has probably been wishing you would ask her out to dinner or coffee for awhile now.  Seriously, You really should before someone else does!!

    And then report back here because we are invested now. ;):popcorn:
    I would really love to but she goes to a different chapel. Either she comes for one of the sung masses where I am and I can see her again, or I become financially capable of providing for a family and specifically go see her and formally ask her for courtship. But right now I am not going to see her at the indult because I am not capable at the moment, I have nothing there because they don't have valid sacraments, as the the girl it would feel weird if I went to my morning mass then went to the indult to wait for her when I am not financially stable. If she feels the same way about me then she can wait for me. Otherwise...
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    « Reply #21 on: June 08, 2025, 12:18:51 AM »
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    • Quote from: MaterDominici on June 07, 2025, 06:38:52 PM
    How far away? How about just go to Mass where she does?



    What a way to introduce yourself! :laugh1:
    The problem is that she goes to the indult, so if I so see her I won't be attending their 'mass'. I would just be waiting around outside. And since we've only spoken once I don't want to make it weird.
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    « Reply #22 on: June 08, 2025, 12:21:05 AM »
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    • Quote from: WorldsAway on June 07, 2025, 06:52:16 PM
    I would try to make sure she has at least a somewhat correct view on EENS, as someone who holds salvation through invincible ignorance, implicit BOD, anonymous Christianism, etc. will probably view a "Feeneyite" as a heretic. I am fine with someone holding BOD for catechumens/those with explicit faith (until that is condemned, that is)..but even that seems to be rare

    Anyone know where a brother can find a single "Feeneyite" lady? :cowboy:
    There were a few online but they blocked me because I occasionally repost MHFM materials, I guess my views are too balanced for even some feeneyites... Those girls were even on cathinfo for a while but they got banned for whatever reason.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #23 on: June 08, 2025, 07:42:46 AM »
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    • Don't forget OP runs the risk of being attacked as a pedo just for taking with teenage girls. I've spoken with men in their mid/late 20s and they are all brainwashed.

    The usual
    "Anything past 18 is game"
    "Young girls are immature"

    Even if you suggest no degeneracy or no sinful behaviour they still don't get it. Even bringing up woman's peak fertility doesn't work on normies.

    So yeah if OP goes on a date with a young teenage girl they is a real risk of busy bodies doing evil things due to judaeo-feminist propaganda.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #24 on: June 08, 2025, 07:59:05 PM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 07, 2025, 04:13:59 PM
    Why is it that men ask these types of anonymous questions on CI and the women don't?
    Girls are more likely to speak about these subjects with their parents and female peers. Also younger ladies are probably not on this forum.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #25 on: Yesterday at 06:20:04 AM »
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 07, 2025, 04:13:59 PM
    Why is it that men ask these types of anonymous questions on CI and the women don't?
    First of all, I think these types of questions have been the same person. Second of all, I think men are less likely to ask about this in the men's only room because it can't be done anonymously there.  Women are less likely to care if this kind of question is not anonymous in the women only room.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on June 07, 2025, 05:13:18 PM
    It's just difficult as the Catholic girl goes to another chapel so I can't see her again unless she comes to mine, or I go out of my way to see and ask her for courtship, but I'm not ready for that, when I am I will because I really do love her (I pray for her to save her soul even if she doesn't marry me)

    What do you mean by "going out of your way"?  Exactly how far away is she/will she be?  Why would that be "going out of your way"?  Also, why is asking for courtship something that would have to happen immediately?

    And, if she is an attractive, young lady AND Catholic, I'm not understanding why you wouldn't go out of your way.  I'm confused by your situation.
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on Yesterday at 06:29:47 AM
    What do you mean by "going out of your way"?  Exactly how far away is she/will she be?  Why would that be "going out of your way"?  Also, why is asking for courtship something that would have to happen immediately?

    And, if she is an attractive, young lady AND Catholic, I'm not understanding why you wouldn't go out of your way.  I'm confused by your situation.
    I don't want to hang around the indult chapel to find her unless I'm ready to provide for a family.
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    Re: Unsure what to do
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    • Quote from: Änσnymσus on Yesterday at 06:52:01 AM
    I don't want to hang around the indult chapel to find her unless I'm ready to provide for a family.
    Don't even think about it until you are ready for a courtship-to-marriage scenario that's objectively a possibility. 



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    Re: Unsure what to do
    « Reply #29 on: Yesterday at 07:12:50 AM »
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    • Quote from: Everlast22 on Yesterday at 07:06:28 AM
    Don't even think about it until you are ready for a courtship-to-marriage scenario that's objectively a possibility.
    I know rationally this is the best option but I have been emotional lately and attacked very bad thoughts, both in despair and depression.

    I really do love this girl and would be very upset if she forgot about me or found someone else, yet I know there isn't much I can actually do in this situation. This is very frustrating because as a man I like to feel in control or have a guarantee. If she really likes me she would wait to see me again wouldn't she?
     
    I also don't to cause scandal by going near the indult (they don't have valid orders) or seeing a girl for a relationship when I'm not financially ready.

    Frankly I'm worried this girl will go to hell when she died because the indult has no valid orders, meaning her confessions are not absolved, her communions aren't real, and her mass is but an imitation. I want to help her save her soul.
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