I missed out on having a cute teenage girlfriend
This is the red flag here. Also, you use gen Z lingo like "cooked" but you say you're older? Are you sure you're not LARPing as an older person, and making up this whole thing?
I think the answer is clear. Women in their prime of beauty are attractive and desirable, for all ages of men. The question is, should you give them a second thought, or is it like driving past a 10 million dollar mansion: "Wow! look at that house! I wonder what it would be like to live in a place like that. Oh well" and you drive on, not giving it a second thought, and certainly not obsessing over it, letting it ruin your life. The fact is, most men will die before ever owning a $10 million piece of property. That is reality, that is life, and the happy ones are the ones who can accept that reality.
People have to adjust their expectations to reality all the time. Remember, everyone (worldwide) thinks that young, beautiful, white women are 1st tier. But over 90% of the world has to look at themselves in the mirror and say, "I'll never get one". They didn't exactly win the genetic lottery, and they know it. A few hard-working and ambitious ones end up becoming rich, and sometimes achieving many of their "dreams" -- including buying that $10 million property, or marrying a woman of top-tier beauty.
But you don't need a $10 million mansion to be happy, and you don't need a "10" on the looks scale to be happy either.
A lesser version of this applies even to white men. They also have to be realistic and not be constantly shooting for the stars in everything. Think of all the OTHER physical attributes in this life besides race (i.e., height, weight, looks, wealth, intellect, social prowess, etc.) that you might not be "maxed out" in, stats-wise.
Moral of the story: we ALL have to be realistic, and 99.99% of people have to "settle" to SOME degree in just about every category in life. Learning to do this is KEY to being even somewhat happy in this valley of tears.
But moving on to the most important point: letting your attraction to this teen girl be more than a passing fancy. I feel your pain; I was there myself and I don't care how many years ago it was. I remember it like it was yesterday (I have a good memory). But if there's one thing I'd slap my younger self over, not being afraid how it would affect me/the future, it would be this.
Don't drool, obsess over, or give more than a passing thought to non-Catholic women! It isn't going to work.Just think about how you wouldn't get along. Yeah, she's cute/gorgeous/feminine/sweet/hot/etc. and seems to be your type. That is literally infatuation by the way. Unless reason is involved, it's infatuation. Infatuation is superficial, just about surface qualities and mostly looks. You know *nothing* about her aside from the fact she's a decently feminine and attractive girl.
You need to do an exercise -- start asking yourself some important questions: Would she start wearing skirts/dresses full time? Would she convert to the Catholic Faith? Would she continue to wear shorts like she's wearing right now? Would she insist on working -- after all, you met her while she was at work (not saying this applies in your specific case, but it usually does)? Is she a liberal? Is she open to having a large family, using no birth control? Is she *at all* open to Traditional Catholicism? How was she raised? What are her values? How much virtue does she have? Can she cook/clean/take care of children? Does she know ANY of the domestic arts? Would she make a good mother for your children? Does she fear God? How much feminism has she been taught, part of who she is, in her very bones? How worldly is she? Would she spend you into poverty, even if she DID convert and marry you? If she doesn't have established virtue (fearing God, mortification, etc.) then she could easily cheat on you and/or divorce-rape you in 7, 10, or 15 years. A leopard can't change his spots.
And if you're a real Trad, there are even more obstacles. What would she think of you, if she knew all your positions and beliefs? Would she be able to oppose the whole world (with you) on things like vaccinations, the holocoaster, the spicy flu, public school, the mainstream media, etc.? Is she a fan of hollywood movies, TV, NASA, and Neil Degrasse Tyson? (Yuck!) see, it would never work. No pretty face is worth that.
Yeah -- that's got to be a huge wet blanket. Sorry to be a party pooper and I don't want to depress or blackpill you, but when you aren't clouded by infatuation, the answer is pretty clear. Statistically, you'd be more likely to find $10,000 on the street than to find a random "pagan" beauty who is just one single thirtysomething Trad man away from becoming a great, modestly dressed, virtuous Trad Catholic mom of 10.
I'm a married man but rarely I'll encounter a beautiful young lady who is feminine, and if I feel any tug of attraction I just run through that list of questions. It helps put out the fires of attraction at the source. Actually my list of questions is a bit different -- I'm married, I have a family, etc. But I think the concept is sound: engage your rational brain, and help your self realize why it would never work. Just admire God's creation and move on. The less you think about it (much less obsess over it) the better.
TL;DR - You need to look at the big picture, not just her clear, fair skin and symmetrical face.
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